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rachel_'s picture

My partner whom I live with has 13, 6 and 5 year old daughters. The oldest two get along fine with me. The 5 year old spits, kicks and throws anything she can at me. I ignore her and walk away as nothing else works and ive had enough and frankly starting to really hate her. But now she is telling her school teacher, kids at school and anyone that will listen that im kicking her spitting at her hurting her with spoons. None of which ive ever done. Im studying social work and realise her teachers may have to report her false accusations but what are my actual rights against this manipulative child. The other 2 kids constantly stick up for me and tell my partner she is lying but this has gone far enough and I want this to stop as its bringing me to uncontrollable crying everyday.

Kes's picture

Agree with tog. Something a little similar happened to me when my SDs were 5 and 7. Their BM accused my DH of abusing them. She claimed she had reported him to Social Services. This turned out to be a lie - they had never heard of DH or his daughters.

After that I refused to be alone with my step daughters even for 10 minutes, I did not want my life ruined by a trumped up charge. I strongly urge you to do what tog suggests.

bigmombigheart's picture

Wow I have a SS5 do they really tell lies like that to teachers? ? SCARY! How long have you been in the picture? Have you two every had a relationship? What is OP saying (not your partner)

kalinda's picture

Going through something similar with YSD11 right now, she is telling BM, In-Laws, anyone that will listen that I grab her by the arm and shove her into the corner when I am mad at her. Thank goodness I am never alone with her and DH knows it has never happened. HOWEVER; BM has more than once told DH that she will always believe her daughters over anything he ever says, so I figure its just a matter of time before she calls CPS.

Rags's picture

Take a look for your states laws on corporal punishment. If you are not in DE, light her ass up when she pulls this toxic crap.

Here is a link to a site that has excerpts from the corporal punishment regulations for each state.

http://kidjacked.com/legal/spanking_law.asp

I would be backhanding her across the mouth every time she spit at me if I were you.

But that is just me.

rachel_'s picture

Would so love to give this evil thing a backhander Rags she is nasty manipulative little /=%÷$.
Unfortunately im in Australia and if u look at a kid the wrong way they could throw u in jail

wishihadknown01's picture

TAPE THEM WHEN YOU ARE WITH THEM

GET YOUR PHONE ON VIDEO

GET A UNIT IN THE ROOM
GET EVIDENCE

 

IT BECOMES A  HABIT AND THEY ARE BELIEVED

I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH