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SM22 + a 7 hr flight w/3 mo old baby, ALONE? Easy or difficult?

Silent River's picture

Just wondering what other ST ppl think. My SD lives cross the nation, wants to fly home to see family, talks Disney DH into paying her air fair (Grrrr) because she is dying to come visit, with her 3 month old baby (first baby). Is it just me or does this seem to be a bit much for a new mom? Her DH will not be with her due to work so she travels solo. Also, there will be at least one transfer during the 7 hour flight. Easy or difficult?

2Tired4Drama's picture

I see women flying alone (US and overseas) with babies and small children all the time. The airlines are pretty good about accommodating them. As long as she doesn't carry too much junk with her on the plane, and keeps it simple, she should be fine. Have her check her stuff all the way through and only take on-board what she absolutely needs.

SanAntonioSoccerMom's picture

I flew back and forth between Europe and the Midwest when my son was 4 months old. My step kids were 6 and 7. 25 hours in total from my home to my destination. Did it suck? Yup. Did we make it just fine? Yup.

2Tired4Drama's picture

Exactly! Think about all those women pioneers who not only had their babies while out on the trail, but then bounced around with them for thousands of miles after that in covered wagons. Sure mortality rates were much higher then, but by God a hell of a lot of them lived and made out West, didn't they!

Mos of us living in the USA during the 21st Century truly have no idea what a hard life is.

SanAntonioSoccerMom's picture

4 months old was the most perfect...7 months old was less perfect as he screamed for the last 1.5 hours of the trip and age 2 was a complete NIGHTMARE!!! :jawdrop: :jawdrop: :jawdrop:

hereiam's picture

My SD was 18 when she flew from the States to Germany (where her now ex-husband was stationed) by herself with her 2 month old. She is completely helpless, so if she can do it, anybody can.

I just told her if she got scared or had any questions or concerns, to find somebody who worked for the airline to help her. She was fine.

Silent River's picture

Thank you for your replies. Lots of good points that I hadn't thought of. I guess what doesn't kill us will make us stronger. The thought of it, for me, didn't seem like a good idea from the angle I was looking at it. Maybe because when mine was a baby he was not an easy baby. He needed to be walked when he was fussy, did not sleep through the night for what seemed like forever, and had many health issues. I am probably comparing apples to oranges.

hereiam's picture

Just be honest, you don't want your DH to pay for it and hey, I don't blame you so no judgement here (I wouldn't want my DH to finance the trip, either). But what she has to deal with on the trip regarding her baby is on her. Trying to talk her out of it because it will not be easy for her is not fooling anybody.

Silent River's picture

You are right. It would be too late because he already paid and not only does this stress the budget but he has another daughter in another state. DH stresses being fair and treating each equally. The girls "talk" so I can just about imagine how the boat will rock when the other SD finds out daddy got SD22 a ticket home. And one more point... SD22 sometimes has (sp) seizures which I think would be a concern. I am surprised DH and her hubby do not seem concerned. The whole thing just seems like a bad idea on so many levels. However, I do tend to be a worry wart and what I really need to do is disengage from the whole situation, breath, and let it go.....

hereiam's picture

There ya go, now you got it. Let it go.

My sister has seizures so I know about the worry, but she's an adult and there's nothing I can do about anything she does.

I know how you feel about it seeming like a bad idea on so many levels, but you are just setting yourself up to look like the bad guy by venting your feelings to them, so vent them here and let them do what they are going to do.

Enjoy the baby, if you can, and let the rest go. It's not worth it.