Christmas and a Wedding with BM there
BM is invited to Christmas at my in-laws this year because she is the "mother of their grandson". She is actually staying in my FMIL's house for the holidays (we are staying in a hotel). She is not a very nice person. She has zero filters and is rude to me, belittling me. I have been trying to beg of going to any of the "Christmas Activities" because three days later, I am getting married and don't want to have any drama with her.
Everyone has pointed out that Christmas is for SS. They seem to forget that SO and I are getting married too. SO tried to tell her he was uncomfortable staying in his mom's house and she blew a gasket.
I want to get to know my new family without her around. I was looking forward to being part of his family without his ex inserting herself. Especially right before the wedding because if she is around no one will talk to me about the wedding. My SO actually had to "dis-invited" to the wedding, they are all walking on eggshells now.
Luckily we had a great Christmas with our three kids at home last weekend. I don't feel I'm missing Christmas. My SO doesn't see it that way. He keeps insisting I need to be part of his family traditions, especially the ones with his kid. Those are traditions he set up with his ex and she is still there and his kid could care less if I'm there.
I wish we could just skip right through Christmas.