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My 8year old SD is driving me insane

Lollylolly's picture

So where do I start. I've been with my man for over 2 years, his mom has his kids and we hav them on the weekend, there mom left when they girl was 9 months and boy 3 years. (CPS got involved dad got clean mom bailed) his mother and I don't get along , I am the woman who stole her son as she feels. The kids mom popped back up about a year and half ago, doesn't want them just wants to take picture with them (grandma let mom back into life when a got out of prison) So that the little intro, I also have a four month old baby girl. So I used to do girl things with my SD, nails girl things, except she would always say something akward about her parents being together, her dad asked her not to talk about those things because her mom isn't part of our family, and let me say if her mom did anything for her like but her a present for her birthday, maybe I wouldn't care, but I bust my butt and don't really want to hear about a women who does nothings. She would still bring things up or started making up stories about her dad and other girlfriends, which he never brought any girls around his kids, I believe him, no reason to lie I wouldn't care. Besides that going on for the last year and half, she is rude, example, she says my baby is gross, not just when she is slobbery or once, se will say it six times in an hour. Or says other mean things about her. She never says thank you unless told to or her brother says it first. She will be like why is the door open someone should close it, I say why don't you close it then. You may say I am crazy I feel like it but I swear she doesn't thins on purpose like her grandma gave her a picture of her mom and dad married and she brings it for me to see( beginning of my relationship) not like it was a wedding theywere on drugs got married at the court house because his mom wasn't going to give them money any more if they didn't. Anyway I am looking for advice, I basically am not even around them when they are over cause his daughter annoys me so much I just cook and go in my room. I've talked to her dad but I get over saying thing cause it gets to a point where it causes problems between us so now I say nothing

Patsy's picture

Why did you stop doing the girl things with your SD? Was is a lot of things or something that just finally broke? How long ago did it stop?

Lollylolly's picture

Because she always would talk about thig and make up stories and t got to a point that I was feeling like saying no one wants to here about your mom or say something mean, so I avoid it.

Patsy's picture

I wonder if she was telling you those things to get under your skin or she thought she could tell you things she couldn't tell anyone else. Good for you for not letting her keep up with the stories. Honestly though it sounds like she is missing you. Your MIL is not helping your relationship with her. She is already mad you took her son, she would be devastated if you took her granddaughter too. My advise would be to try your best to fake it till you make it. Fake that you like her until it happens. If you just ignore it your MIL is just going to get more involved and keep turning her against you. Has your DH realized what his mom is doing?

Lollylolly's picture

Yes he knows when I was pregnant his mom said he had to pick me and my baby or his kids e can't have both. Now that she hasn't seen the baby in four months, let me tell you she never asked until all of her friends (kids parents) had seen her , she is very into being fake, pretending she is just so kind and nice and church going, so she wants everyone to think everything is normal. I won't let her see her, se tried to tell my SO it wasn't his daughter and she saw me with anther man, until my daughter asks to see her I will not have her around her.

Patsy's picture

I think your fight is with her not your SD. She sounds down right wicked and she is going to make your SD the same! Has your SO done anything about this? Do you think he will ever get his kids back from her?

Lollylolly's picture

He is going to have to go through court because hen CPS took them his mom became gardian and when get got clean he co parented and did everything she wanted, so he never went back to court I know so dumb.