What are “the” responsibilities of a step mom so that I don’t feel like I don’t have a life anymore? Is it safe to say that I should just end this marriage because maybe I am just so unhappy to have to do anything for DH’s children? Is it me, or am I really taken advantage of? I’m really confused and am hoping that maybe some of you out there can shed some light on step mother responsibilities… My stepkids (twin boys age 7) live with us Full Time. They visit BM some holidays, spring break and 6 weeks during the summer. DH takes them to school in the mornings, I have to be at work too early to take them, but I must rush home after work to pick them up. Anytime DH wants to go to the gym, store, hang out with friends, he just leaves and never asks me to sit at the house with the boys. He just assumes because I will be there that it’s alright. Is this how it is supposed to be and I just accept this? I’m just wondering because sometimes I want to watch a show or run to the store or take a nap, but I can’t with them there. They are bad kids too, so it’s been a work in progress getting their behavior under control which is starting to come around. We now have our own child together (soon to be 9 month old) and our child is what keeps me from walking away currently. If there is an emergency at school, I am called to leave work to pick them up because DH works further. If school is let out early, I am expected to take off work because DH job isn’t as lenient. All this now makes me even mad that they live with us because do I get a life? Why do I have to sacrifice my time for his children? Is it because we live together? I have expressed my disgust and now instead of just leaving them to go to the gym or store, he has started taking them with him. But because they are no longer allowed at the gym daycare because they don’t follow rules, he can’t take them there anymore. Also, they run all over the store so he hates taking them. Their behavior is not my problem, it’s DH’s problem and he needs to discipline them. I don’t want to sit at home with them acting like that, so why does DH automatically assume that I want to? I have tried disengaging in the past and DH gets angry stating I am not paying attention to them and only care about the baby. I’m starting to think that being in this marriage isn’t really worth my health as far as the anxiety that has been created, the elevated stress level and depression. Is this normal? Has anyone divorced because of step mom duties??? I understand that in a perfect world I should treat them as my own and I do, but to sacrifice my career, time and happiness for someone else’s children just doesn’t sit right with me at this point….