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NoraAstepmom's picture

When I came into my marriage I have to admit I was a wimp. I cant say that anymore. But it took a few years to get to that point. Was it a good thing maybe, maybe not. Time will tell. As of right now being married and dealing with entitled adult kids has made me a stronger person. I never had a dad that ever made me feel like I was entitled to anything not even support. I worked hard for everything I had and owned. I can also say I did it on my own. My adult step kids are the way they are because they have a father that enables them and im sure it was going on long before I came into the picture. I didnt come into this marriage to be anyones parent a friend and a wife to my husband. All I got was alot of crap talk from his kids. I learned how to let go of it. Why.? because it was making me sick I have become a different person.
I feel numb and at times I feel lost and that maybe I dont have a heart anymore. This scares me, because what I have done was let these adults make me hard where I had to shut down my feelings and I wonder if I will ever be able to feel again.
You read all the storeys on here and for me I think is this how its really suppost to be, I mean look all of us have so much in common.
Now when my husband brings up his kids I dont say a word why because I dont care I tryed and tryed but I think im just tired. Thanks for letting me vent. Its nice to have this site to come to. Thank you.

forgotten wife's picture

I think our DH's try to make us feel guilty for not loving their adult kids as a mother would; unconditionally.

Well, that just goes against nature. In nature, we're supposed to kill another's offspring. They need to leave well enough alone.

sandye21's picture

When DH got off the phone with SD after she had a meltdown and told her she was not allowed in our home for a while, he looked at me with that "Oh, won't you feel bad" look on his face and blurted, "SD says she LIKES you." I immediately replied, "She doesn't like me and I don't like her." That put him on notice that I was no longer putting up with the hypocritical crap they had been forcing down my throat for so many years. He never tried it again.