How to find out if BM is working?
Short of hiring a PI (which I continue to consider...but every penny has to be saved for the attorney right now), how do we know if/when BM is working? Turns out she hasn't worked since 2008, used up all her unemployment benefits (and that coincides perfectly for when she planned this pregnancy)!!! She of course has herself listed as "zero" income, so she gets the max CS (almost $300 a week :sick: ). And we know she most likely won't work--although how all her bills are getting paid we don't know. The CS pays her entire mortage, plus leaves over at least $600 for the month.
She had claimed she was "unable to meet the child's basic needs" when she tried to get more money (and was DENIED), so we know she's hurting for money. But it's not like she's going to call us to say she's working--we know she wants to keep the max CS for as long as she possibly can. We do suspect she's working under the table, but no way to "prove" it.
How do we find out if she is working? There's no contact (the situation is a very difficult one--right now the no contact is for the safety of our family--it's sad but it is what it is) other than when she is sending yet another motion thru the courts to get more money. Come to think of it, we are overdue for something from her soon. Would she have to alert DOR? Could we go thru DOR to find out? Or should we go thru the attorney? She doesn't have an attorney; we just put a mini-retainer down on a new one. We are pretty certain she's not working, won't work, has no desire to work--she gets a lot of CS, government assistance, etc. Would she have to notify when she starts working? I'm sure she would "notify" us because she would try to use it as an opportunity to get MORE money to cover childcare...although the new guidelines wouldn't force my DH to pay additional for it.