Visitation Question now...
I figure since I'm on a roll, I'd ask a few more questions of you folks.
So in all this madness, my DH was advised by his last lawyer to let all this crap die down (which it only seems to highten and get worse) and wait 'til the kid is about 1-2 years old before he seeks visitation (I believe the lawyer called it "tender years" or something like that?). While my DH more and more wants nothing to do with everyone, I convinced him that it would be a good idea to visit at least 1X a month to start. At least open the door for the future, ya know?
With the way BM is, anything more than visitation for an hour at a public place is not an option right now. I don't trust that she wouldn't scream hostility or injury just to try and get us in trouble/file something bogus.
Which brings me to my questions. We KNOW she is going to make demands in regards to visitation as she has made demands in regards to everything else.
1. Can she dictate that he only goes alone, if the meeting would be in a public place? He honestly doesn't want to for fear that she would lie and say he was hostile (which she has already tried to do...mind you he has barely talked to her and everytime has been in court). No one else in our circle of friends knows of this situation and frankly we are in no rush to announce this to the world, so bringing a friend is out. We considered a visitation center, but the closest one is a hour away. He would have to pay for someone from CPS to come. The mall is MUCH closer. And it's free. So he wants me to go with him. Plus I am technically a mandated reporter, I'm CORI checked every year for my summer job, and have never threatened the BM or child ever. I would just sit and observe, I would have no other real interaction. My DH most likely wouldn't even handle the child in the beginning. And our children would definitely NOT be there.
2. Can she demand he bring pay stubs? I ask because she has already tried to do that.
3. Can she demand that he goes to her house only for visits (alone)? LOL over my dead body on that one...
4. Can she make other requests? Examples?
There is no specific court order for visitation/parenting plan, as his lawyer didn't input anything at the time (which was a BAD decision as the lawyer was supposed to put in for joint legal...in a nutshell the last lawyer screwed him over so bad). He has visitation rights--they would be supervised and both of us are ok with that as we really fear bringing this child into our home. My DH would rather try the visitation without the court's enforcement as frankly he is sick and tired of going to court over and over again. But he would consider it if she makes demands/requests.
Thank you again for your input. I am unfamiliar with how all this works and just want to be prepared and help him out.