Please don't judge me.
This fourm has been very helpful to me, I have recieved alot of support. I am probably just going to get judged for what I am about to post, so please if you don't have anything helpful to say please don't respond.
I me my BF two years ago, after I had been seeing him for awhile, he enlightened me to the fact that he was still legally married. Him and his ex, and always intended to divorce (separated for over four years) but had not filed the paperwork yet. A couple of months after we started dating, he told me his ex had him sign the divorce papers. So when we moved in together two months agao, it has been almost a year since he signed the papers. I find out today, that she didn't file the papers, she has been sitting on them. Of course he doesn't tell me this until we got a place together. As far as I knew the divorce was in the works. He also didn't tell me that this isn't the first time she has done this!
I feel cheated. I was led to believe that this was being taken care of. As far as I am concerned their marriage is over, so they need to finish their business. Had I known this before I signed the lease I wouldn't have moved in with him, until the papers were AT LEASE filed.
I told him immediatly F*** your ex, file here NOW! I got this "I don't want to piss her off." He is afraid that if he does anything to piss her off that he will have a custody battle on his hands. I am sooooooooo angry that I wasn't given the option to make an informed decision on whether or not I wanted to get invovled with this, BEFORE I signed on the dotted line. I thought that this was all being sorted out, I had no idea what I was getting into. Now I am in a lease that I can't afford to break! I am willing to wait a little bit for him to get the ball rolling with this matter. Although if he doesn't....quickly, this will be a deal breaker for me. He lead me to believe that we had the potential for a future together, but if wont man up and deal with his buisness.....WE DON'T!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I just don't know what to do.......HELP!