New to ST
Hi not sure how to start but lately having issues with my BF due to BM. Just today he got upset with me becuase of BM switching his days for parenting time. BM enrolled him in a program at her college stating that it was a pre school but I went to open house they are accredited but the litle guy who is 3 trs will only be going 2 x a week for 4 hrs so that sounded more of day care that would be cutting into his parenting time plus the taking him and picking him so I suggested for him to ask he can make those hours up. He ended up calling her and argueing and she switched his days back to the court order now he wont be able to see him becuase he is going to work. At the end I was to blamed because I needed to be right and I to prove she had to be wrong. This far from my intention but this is not the only time something like this happens. I have 2 kids of my own from a previous relationship one 5 and the other 9. I just want to know if I was in the wrong and if next time he asks for my opinion not give it to him. Sincerely confused 
You are not exactly in the
You are not exactly in the "wrong", but these situations are very sticky. If I were you I would disengage from matters like this, and let your DH handle matters with BM. If nothing else he wont have you to blame if things go wrong.
So how can I be better
So how can I be better support system for him when things go wrong and he is upset with out starting a arguement and letting BM always be the topic of it. Because besides that, we rarely have a disagreement on amything BM always seems to be it and honestly I am getting fed up with it.
I just wouldn't get involved
I just wouldn't get involved with anything having to do with BM. I just works better that way, if you were involoved in the "problem" you become the scapegoat. You can still be his support system if anything goes wrong. Just don't get involved in the decision making with things having to do with BM whenever possible. I know it is tough, but by getting involved you are setting yourself up for arguements. By getting involved your DH probably feels like he is caught in a tug-of-war with you and BM. Guess who he is going to get mad at? Removing yourself from that battle is in your best interest.