this is my first real post here. so sorry if its kinda long.
my bf and i have been together 5yrs. he has twins (boy and girl, 11) and he and i have bd who is 3. ss11 is a dream--never gives us problems beyond normal things. he is polite and he does what he is told with minimal encouragement. he is neat and organized. he and i have gotten along great and he loves bd3.
sd11 is a real problem, opposite of her brother. she is the most disrespectful brat i ahve ever seen. she is very self-centered and disgusting. her room is always nasty mess with clean and dirty clothes mixed on the floor, drawers hanging open, closet full of papers, toys, clothes and empty water bottles.
bf is guilt parenting. he gets the kids whatever they want and goes back on his punishments. ss11 has adapted my attitude--if it isnt a nessicity, dont bother wasting money. i beleive i have had a good influence on this kid since my arrival 5yrs ago. it took some time to get around his shyness but now he is like my little helper.
sd11 is a greedy little brat who will throw herself on the floor in the middle of a store if she cant get a toy or soemthing. i havent taken her shopping with me in the last 2yrs cause of it.
it is at the point i dont want to even talk to sd anymore cause she is so rude and whiny and manipulative. how do i go about doing that without bf getting mad?