You are right and accurate. I have thought that myself. Keep in mind, though, that there are as many situations as there are women blogging. Some are afraid, and need the confirmation of the masses that they are not crazy and they CAN get out. Maybe they don't trust themselves. Some are lonely and will never make a move, so they just blog wherever someone will listen and comment.

Some can't see their options, too many trees and not enough forest, and when they blog, asking what seems like a no brainer question, they are met with workable suggestions that they may have never considered, answers that just may give them a way out.

I read your frustration in your words...it is just not so cut and dried as you want it to be and much easier (definitely much less frustrating) to extend grace to those that need it.

Everyone thinks "THIS can't be happening to ME"

Think of it like every teenager does stupid things, thinking they're invincible...

Everyone wants the fairly tale ending....but nobody wants to consider they're not getting it.

It's because people want a nice, easy answer to their problems. As if there was a magical phrase they could say to skids/DH/BM/whoever to get treated better.(A phrase that is not "NO." It has to keep everyone happy!)

It's never an easy answer. If it was, there wouldn't be a problem.

Not discounting everyone's problems. I've been through it too and it sucks. But more often than not, the right answer isn't an easy one.

Most of us are married to or living with someone who has kids. But every situation is and person is still totally different.

What one woman may tolerate for 25 years, another wouldn't tolerate for 25 seconds.

Different religious backgrounds = different beliefs about divorce.

Different financial situations. Different ages.

What a woman at 50 years old has learned might fall on deaf ears if spoken to a woman who is 27. One woman's rotten skids who stayed rotten well into their 20's may be different from another woman's rotten skids who grew up and now she gets along with them.

One person may be able to have a conversation with his or her spouse about expectations and things change immediately. It may take complete disengagement for another couple.

Also - we only hear half of the story with each blog post.

I ran into SM2 at graduation yesterday and she made a comment about BM giving her trouble and I, very straightforward, said "yeah I'm on to year five, you're just getting started and the best thing you can do is ignore [BM] at all costs. It won't get better and she won't change" She tried to shrug it off and say "oh well [Babydaddy2] plans on taking her to court soon" I told her to save her money and her time. She's a disney mom passing her children and losing control of them both at the same time. "Give it a few years and the kid will be so uncontrollable and she will be leaving him on your doorstep"

She gave me giant Deer-in-headlights eyes. Sure I was blunt but its the truth and its exactly the advice I received (kind of) here when I first arrived and what I've learned from this site in the last three years from others. I saved her a lot of time and experience with those words but I'm sure her rose-goggles made them fall on deaf ears. She will learn just like the rest of us...