I am not sure if this is normal or not. So bare with me as I tell you what I mean. I have literally nothing of my past, meaning pictures, stuff, etc.. When I married my xh I was 17 years old and I was told by my then MIL, that it was inappropriate to keep pictures of old bf's or friends etc.
So being that I was a teenager, I figured she was wiser than me and chucked it all. It didn't really matter to me. I thought hey I'm marrying the man I want right? So is it normal to keep pictures of friends, girls, ex lovers, ex wifes(w kids in them) after you have re-married?
I will tell you what I found. I was driving DH's truck, this week because it was home and had gas, the baby's seat was in it already too. DH just recently (like last week) got a work truck and I started working from home full time monday. So I was looking for a phone charger and I thought it might be in the middle compartment between the seats. I found several old pictures.
It was like a stack of like 6 pictures. 1 picture was from a few years ago at a father daughter dance of him and the 2 sd's. 2 of them were pictures of him and some guys sitting around a table. The 3rd was a picture of a girl written on the back " '95 DH, Good luck with leslie she is a good person. Love Kristy" It was a little more than that but the just of it. The 4th picture was a baby, I assumed before I turned it over it was one of the SDs. It had "Leslie J--------- 18 months" written on the back of it.
I can see keeping old pictures. I am really not sure why they were in the middle compartment of a truck he drove everyday. Also he did not have this truck during that time, he bought it after we met. So either he found them somewhere, I have no idea where because we moved like 17 months ago, or he got them from someone recently.
So is it normal to keep the old pictures from your past, riding around with you in your present? Was he planning on seeing "leslie J" and giving her back her baby picture. If he has her baby picture they obvioulsy lived together at some point but I have never heard her name mentioned before ever. It was like when he was 20 years old and we turn 40 this year but I was just curious.
I have a few old photos my cousin gave me when she cleaned out her dad's stuff. I have that stuff put away in an old album. The other part of this is, that his longtime friend and friend's wife's name is Leslie. Of course I don't know her maiden name and if I ask, it will be suspicious.
It kind of took me aback and I'm feeling weird about it. We have a rocky at best relationship so maybe that's why I feel weird or it could be mother nature just hates me right now.