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Halloween (again)

Rhinodad's picture

So, this has been a relatively quiet week with SD8 here this week. She's been on pretty good behavior - other than not getting her work done at school or at home and having to turn in incomplete work. No temper tantrums about homework, nothing. Relatively quiet.

One thing that did happen is that DW had a discussion with SD about Halloween... in front of me and BS3. Basically she told SD that: "we're going to be doing Halloween different this year. Instead of your dad coming over here and all of us going trick-or-treating, you are either going to go with us here in this neighborhood or go with your dad in his. You need to decide soon which one you want this year, because we will switch each year. So next year you will go with the other parent."

SD8 had no problem with that. Just said "Ok" and then started talking about potential costumes. I knew SD would be fine with it - it is the parents who are making it an issue.

So SD8 was talking to me about costumes yesterday and she mentioned she is going to trick-or-treat at our house this year because she wants to be able to do it with her friends in the neighborhood.

So, that is awesome. I no longer have to spend my Halloween with BioDad and his clan. I can actually focus on BS3 and have some fun with only our family. Awesome.

Of course, I have no idea if DW has discussed this with BioDad yet. That should be an interesting conversation. And it remains to be seen what will happen for next year's Halloween... will he expect to come to our neighborhood and trick or treat? Or will DW tell him he needs to handle it on his own?

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Rhinodad's picture

He won't - based on past experience. When my DW says something he generally gets the point.... most times. But we left the choice up to SD and I think that is fair.

I don't think he'll come over because we live in a gated community, and he has to have our permission to get in. I'm the person the gate calls. So I would know first.

We will do the costume and the walking this year. I think DW is excited about it too because she wants us all to dress up... a family thing we've never done before.

Rhinodad's picture

Well, it certainly wasn't my choice, and it really pissed me off.

But I have to give DW credit that she has listened to what bothers me and is actually making a change. Ultimately this will work out better I think. I wouldn't be surprised if BioDad's finance likes this new arrangement better as well.

ChiefGrownup's picture

Glad it's settled. I wouldn't have left it up to the kid, though. Nor underscored that it's "different" this year. Would have just made it happen.

But what's done is done and all is well. Happy for you, Rhino. So glad you don't have to date tattoo dad any more.

Teas83's picture

Good for you for being so mature and going with SD's dad for the last few years. I've never met my SD's BM, and even if I had there's no way I would want her near my BD.

Teas83's picture

Good for you for being so mature and going with SD's dad for the last few years. I've never met my SD's BM, and even if I had there's no way I would want her near my BD.

Rhinodad's picture

It wasn't DW. If you read my previous blogs about Halloween, I'm the one who took the hard stance. After speaking about it with DW she agreed to change the way we do Halloween.

I was skeptical that she would actually make a change, but she has.