Update to ‘A cautionary tale’

After the death of my beloved stepdad, almost a year ago, I posted a blog about PAS’d children who abuse their dads and the reckonings that can result. Today, I received a $125,000.00 cheque (along with my 5 surviving sibs) from my dad’s estate whereas his cruel and malicious adopted daughter got zip. Dad made sure that his will was airtight; no recourse for the bitch. I’ll bet she wishes that she’d been a little nicer to her father?

After having heard her demanding screeches on the phone, loud enough to be understood from 3 yards away, I don’t feel a bit sorry for her. Dad would be shaking when he hung up and it made me furious, to see that good and gentle man mistreated by a daughter who should have loved him.

Looks like that trip to Rome will be business class!

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Those people tend to get what is coming to them.

My dad teases that "Nothing is too good for my boys and nothing is exactly what they are going to get!"

His boys love him beyond measure, as he does both of us. We treat him with the utmost respect. Mom too.

Our most ardent wish is that he and mom live well and bounce their last check on their way out together. Many more years from now.

I am sorry that your dad was saddled with that shrieking selfish harpy he adopted. He is blessed to have had you and your 5 loving sibs in his life.

Enjoy your trip to Rome. No doubt your dad will be having a great time there with you enjoying your smiles and laughter during the trip.

Thanks, Rags!

Rags, on his deathbed, Dad told me, “Dear, you’ll be getting some serious coin when I die and I hope that you’ll have some fun with it!” in fact, he has another bank account, here in Canada, that has not yet passed probate so more thousands are in the offing.

Money is nice but I’d hand back every cent, to have my beloved father back in my life. I’m still so triggered by little things! Last week, DH and I were getting gas for his car and there was a red, Ford truck in front of us, exactly the same model as Dad’s. I couldn’t stop crying; had to pull over until I was able to compose myself. Dang, how long does it take to stop grieving the loss of such a parent?

After a year, I’m still thinking of Dad every day and wondering how I’m going to enjoy the upcoming football season without him. When I have a problem, there is always that split second when I consider reaching for the phone to ask for his judicious and loving advice. No more Dad!

I loved your comment,

‘No doubt your dad will be having a great time there with you enjoying your smiles and laughter during the trip.’

I’d sure love to think so! Thanks, my friend, for your kindness and support.

Know it, don't just think it.

As an engineer my perspective on the immortality of love may not jibe with being a science kinda person. However, I have zero doubt that love is immortal and we will all, at least those who earn it by living as people of character, will all reunite with our loved ones.

I know this because of the love I have for my baby brother. He passed nearly 52 years ago. That love that I have for him has not faded one bit. I think of him often. I remember him and things about him along with the feels that they just happened.

The same goes for my GPs and the dear friends that I have lost over the course of my life.

Your dad is with you. Always has been, even before he had met you, and always will be.

I knew my bride and our kid were out there. Even before I met them. The three of us will never end. We will change form, and we will experience things without each other, but what we have is eternal. I will give my kid a load of crap "face to face" some day after I am gone. My parents will keep their foot applied to my butt as necessary even after they move on.

Is it odd to have tears on my face at the same time I have a big grin on my face as I am typing this?

Think of how your dad is enjoying the next football season with you, think of how he would like a great play, or the go to game food you will enjoy. The good stuff you enjoy together.

Grief for me is both heart rendering and cathartic. It gives me wonderful memories as I yearn to hold that person in my arms just one more time.

Deep breaths dear lady. You got this. Your dad knows that you love him and he knows that you got this. Keep living the life he wants you to have.

Ah Rags,

Once again, you’ve proven that your (occasionally) salty exterior shrouds a soft center; Mr. Engineer can also be sentimental enough to jeopardise his ‘man card’! Your posts never fail to engage me in a positive way. Yup, you definitely quality as a ‘mensch’.

I love this (except about

I love this (except about your stepdad shaking...I experienced that with my mother after my sister harassed the crap out of her, and it was horrible). I know my skids are going to be super surprised when DH goes/when we go. If only I could float around in the ether and watch. lol.

Business class: YES!

Hey, Mia,

Your comment;

I know my skids are going to be super surprised when DH goes/when we go. If only I could float around in the ether and watch. lol.

Why will they be confused, if you don't mind me asking.

They are left NOTHING. They

They are left NOTHING. They can have some material items (DH is good with SS getting one of his cars, but that's not in writing) if they're not too lazy to come get them (which they will likely be), but they get no money. Executors of our estates are two of my relatives, one of whom they will not want to tangle with. The wills are wrapped up pretty tight. We did this after DH's health crisis in 2023.

All RIGHT!

Thanks for your response to my nosiness, Mia, and being aware of the unconscionable behaviour of the steps (and their unhinged mother) after following your posts for the last many months, I’m delighted to hear that they’ll be heir to the same legacy as my dad’s venomous, entitled, other daughter. Like your relationship with the steps, Dad’s adopted daughter brought nothing but grief and pain into his life; why would anyone so negatively affected by such a person want to enrich them?

A shame, that you won’t be around to see the expressions on the faces of those two disinherited shits after you don your oak overcoat! I have a passionate hatred for bullies and love nothing better than to see them get their comeuppance. Ah well, you’ll just have to use your imagination. And BTW, your recent blog, ‘Making room for good things’, put a smile on my face that lasted for hours. Despite all the misery that you've endured, you’ve bounced back better than ever! ♥️

You are so sweet!

Well, I *might* be around when the skids realize their father isn't leaving them any money. They will be shocked. They have said things that make me believe they think Daddy has a bundle of money he's going to leave them. They have said things that sound like they came straight out of their mother's mouth about DH's plans for his will (I just shake my head). That's one of the many reasons we wrapped up our (separate) wills tightly, making them untouchable by any greedy challenges.

We have always had separate accounts and I have made sure his ingrates will not touch a cent of mine. It's somewhat complicated, but we have it all figured out.

Hmmm

His adopted daughter certainly reaped what she sowed! Enjoy your windfall and a toast to Dad!

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