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Thanksgiving was okay!

Dogmom1321's picture

We hosted Thanksgiving this year. It was only DHs brother and his family, plus his Mom. 11 people total, not too bad! 
 

SD14 only made an appearance for food of course. Her cousins are 1 and 3 years younger. Not too much of an age gap though that you can't have conversation. DS3 had a blast! His "big cousins" played hide and seek, soccer, and construction trucks outside with him. He later said "I had so much fun today!". Brother in law asked "so I guess SD13 doesn't ever play with DS3?" He didn't seemed surprised. But didn't say it in a mean way either. Just very matter of fact. I said no she doesn't, but he doesn't know SD any other way, so it doesn't phase him. 
 

Later on DH said SD14 needed to come say bye. She went on a blame game of "no one wants to talk to me" so that's why I hid in my room. DH called bull on it. I just minded my own and went outside. 
 

I had zero interaction with SD14 the entire Thanksgiving. So did my DS3. We are getting ready for bed and She finally decides to finally speak. Almost 7:30 pm. Do you have a phone charger I can borrow?" I said "No, I don't sorry." She proceeded with she only needed it for ''a little while''. I said "you can try looking in the kitchen drawers for one." She responded with "no I already looked." 
 

I stopped responding. Like seriously??? You have ignored everyone the entire day, never uttered the word thank you, but get annoyed that I won't give you my only phone charger? I was flabbergasted. Looking back I wish I would have said that, but staying disengaged is the way to be and take the high road. What would you have said? 

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CajunMom's picture

No need to cause any trouble when you know it won't do any good. Just keep practicing disengaging. The only thing I could think of if she continued asking you...."go check with your dad." Stand strong on your boundary to not get involved. You did GREAT!

Rumplestiltskin's picture

Agree. "Ask your dad." She won't die without a charger. 

ETA I just looked and this is the girl who sneaked out on your DH's custody time in the middle of the night to do a long distance drive with BM in a hurricane, one that ended up killing many people trapped in their cars in flash floods, and didn't reply for hours when asked if she was with her mom. Just let you guys stress not knowing if she had been kidnapped. Yeah, disengage the hell out of anything to do with her! 

Dogmom1321's picture

That one liner is usually my go to! Unfortunately DH started to feel like he was coming down with a fever/virus, so he went to bed early. Definitely didn't want her to wake him up. I typically try to not even say that much! 

MorningMia's picture

Wow. You did great! Congrats. And so happy that DS3 had a blast. Well-done! (What does SD have against the cousins? Not blood-related?) 

Dogmom1321's picture

Absolutely nothing bad against them! They leave 20 minutes away, just don't see each other often. They are blood related. But were raised with manners and know how to hold a conversation (with both adults and kids) without staring at a screen. Them being outgoing and kind didn't fit her "woe is me" typical agenda.