Sd... it's she coming? I'm not holding my breath.
I've learned, have ZERO expectations when it comes to sd.
Dd19 has told me that sd18 told her she's not coming during Thanksgiving break. Dd19 is very upset about this .she's upset for dh, but also upset because dd19 knows what it's like to not have a father and she feels very lucky to have DH as a father figure. So it upsets sd that she would just cast him aside and not take full advantage of having a dad who WANTS to be in your life.
Dd19 tells dh that sd told her she's not coming, that's she's just too busy. DH calls sd18 (doesn't mention ANYTHING that Dd19 told him. He asks,"hey, when are you coming during Thanksgiving break?" She said she's really busy, but she's probably going to come Friday or Saturday night.
When SD says she's busy... she gets 2 full weeks break... she has 1 or 2 friends and zero jobs. She MIGHT baby sit while she's here 1 or 2 days... but she's not BUSY. She's definitely not too busy to visit with her mom.
My bet is that she'll be too busy until the last minute and on her way back out of town she'll stop in for 10-15 minutes just so that she could say that she DID visit her father. We couldn't say that she didn't visit if she did that.
My hopes is that she doesn't come at all, I really don't like her... not even a little. She's a disgusting peice of trash that has done nothing but make everyone's life miserable in our home... the sooner we can write her off the better. The sooner everyone can stop expecting her to stop in, even for 10 minutes, the better.