Adult SD's have turned my kids against me
Hi everyone. So my worst fears have come true. I have two DD's 12 and 14, with my husband. My husband has 3 older girls, 26, 26 and 30. My SK's have hated me for a long time. My DH had full custody, I met him when they were 8,8 and13 and they lived full time with us, as their own Mum walked out years earlier. The 13yo turned against me 2 years in and it has all been downhill since then. Fast forward 15 years. My girls love and look up to the Skids. They Skids love them and dote on them. The Skids have a life long vendetta against me, I think cos I took their Dad's attention from them, or so they percieve. The Skids say awful things about me to my kids and husband and to my face, such as I should kill myself, I should have my kids taken away from me. Since those last comments, I no longer see them. But my two girls who I love with all my heart, now say they hate me and don't want me around. They say these are their feelings and not coming from the Skids, but they cannot give a single example of why they feel this way and they use the exact words that the Skids have used such as saying that I am manipulative. I feel like the Skids have ruined my life and taken my kids from me. I'm heartbroken. I don't know what to do! Will my kids grow up and eventually realise that I was a good mum to them?
I cannot stop my kids from seeing the Skids as my kids would hate me even more if I stopped that, they are close. My DH has spoken to the Skids many times about it but they dont care. He has also spoken to our girls about it but to no avail.
The twist is, that we move overseas in 3 months, for 3 to 4 years (me, DH and DD's). We will be back twice a year to visit. I think it will be positive that my DD's do not see the SKids as much after this. But I am certain the Skids will keep texting and calling them and saying awful things about me and trying to continue the hate against me. They honestly seem obessed about it. It is now like all 5 girls against me.
Any advice? What can I do to help my kids see through this and base their feelings on the relationship they actually have with me. I think a bit of it is teen angst eg retaliating against me when I enforce rules etc. But it is being fed 1,000 times over by the older girls making me out to be an awful person.
Help!! I can't believe this has happened and feel so defeated. These Skids have ruined my life. Honestly if I could go back in time,without question, I would not have married their Dad, as all the grief and hell has not been worth it.