Feeling unsupported by DH and SD sick again!!
Didn't have a great weekend. SD9 was eerily quiet and I realised it's because she was sick... again! Last time she came over DS was just born and she ended up being sick so DH dropped her back to BMs. She had this cough which came out every now and then but other than that she appeared fine. 2 days later DD3 developed a cough and as soon as SD realised that she openly coughed more. I know SD can't help it but it's just annoying.
That day I bought a bunch of oranges and fruit and welcomed the skids to eat up and DD3, but especially SD. She loves fruit so i let her eat as much as she liked hoping that will boost her immunity. For dinner DH made salad/ vege bowls and I took SD's by accident as I thought DH made everyone's the same this entire time! Found out he doesn't as SD was picking through hers and pulling out the tomatoes. DH ignored it and SS complained the mess she was making. I didn't comment.
Last night DH made dinner (I assisted as I baby wear bubs now) and he asked her if she wanted avocado. She came over and said just one bit. Then asked for no tomato, no capsicum and no carrot. I was at the sink and realised she listed everything that DH cut up and said 'So no vegetables'.
Seriously everyone in the house knows she doesn't like vegetables and it it was her way we would be eating Maccas nuggets, snitzels, pizza or kievs for dinner every night. DH told me I was out of line saying that to her but I shrugged and said I just stated the obvious. She needs to eat veggies and not processed foods as her immune system is terrible. She is constantly sick, goes to school part time over at BMs because she's 'sick' and BM doesn't care and it's annoying as she infects us (DD3) and with a newborn in the house it's not ideal.
DH is starting to get offended how I am parenting DD3 and feels like my comments to him are passive aggressive when it comes to the skids. But I am damned if I tell them what to do (you are being mean the way you speak to them) and damned if I don't tell them anything (DD3 throws a royal tantrum as I've told her to do something and they don't do it) and so now I ask DH in I thought a nice and casual way but nope it must offend him. So tf with the lot of them basically and I'll start explaining to DD that her siblings have different rules. That will go down well with DH!
We normally have a great marriage where he stands by me and supports me a lot but I feel lately he's not anymore and leaning on more Disney dad toward SD as he wants her to be happy here (obviously worried she doesn't want to be here - but newsflash! She's already PAS'd thanks to the HCBM he refuses to communicate anything with and she just acts all quiet and polite until she is back home with mumma and her processed diet and 24/7 free range time on electronics (hence part time school).
I get upset how firm he is with DD3. I know she can be sassy and tantrum filled but she is only 3! I've never heard him yell at SD as she is so eerie quiet and waits for the reaction of other people and they get the scalding (HCBM all over!)
He got annoyed at me today because he wanted to take the skids to the beach with DD3. I just said well DD3 is sick. She can't go in the water and be wet and cold.. she has a croup cough. He said oh well she won't go in then. Excuse me? So you, SS and SD go off frolicking and snorkeling in the water while I deal with a crying and upset 3 year old not understanding why she can't go in the water while juggling a 4 week old baby because guess what I can't go in the water either! He got annoyed at me (again!) and said fine I'll only take them (skids) as I promised them I would. Yeah no worries leave me home alone doing housework again. I do that every day! I'm lucky if I squeeze in a shower these days. Yesterday he left me on my own as he went out and about with the skids. Plus SD is also sick!! She has been coughing just as much as DD3 but yeah get her in the freezing ocean no worries.
Sorry I have been running on 3 hour broken sleep due to feeds, and looking after DD3 who is now congested and sick and praying my baby doesn't get sick. Oh the other thing that annoyed me!
SS is starting up cricket this season now footy has finished. Hooray. BM is on board he says. Cool. Then DH says he will need to get him cricket gear for him, new bat, ect. Fine. Then he said 'oh his training is on Wednesdays so we have to change DD's swimming lessons'. Tf we are! I told him well the only time is mondays half an hour earlier and so that might work if SS goes back to BMs so you can get here on time to take her. Otherwise we leave the lesson where she is just settled into and I take her one week and you take her the second. Share the load.
Dh thankfully agreed but SS pouted as DH won't be there at his training every week as he is sharing the load with DD3. I said to SS 'You know Uncle S? He only takes your cousin to training or sometimes Aunty does on her own as they juggle work and the other two kids. It's pretty common for only one parent to take their kids to sports sometimes'. He nodded and ignored me. Well it's true! Sometimes I only take DD3 to her swimming as DH can't get there in time.
Sorry for my long post! I am just feeling unsupported by my DH these days and I do a lot to support him and this is supposed to be an exciting time for us with the new baby but all I want to do is pack both my babies in the car and take them to my parents for the week when the skids are here.