My 80 yr old dad having trouble with his skids
I was calling my 80 yr old dad the other day, and he said he had been stressed out lately - so I asked him why. He usually doesn't want to share his troubles, but he obviously needed a friendly ear this time.
He said his 2nd wife's daughter, who is in her late forties, came over to their house for dinner. She brought her husband, and her 3 enormous german shephards - who are their "babies." The largest is almost 6 feet tall when standing on hind legs. Well, during dinner, my dad said he is "always expected" to share a portion of his dinner with SD's dogs. Everyone is. (How odd is that?)
He said SD took the largest portion of meat and then looked judgementally at my dad because he didn't immediately cut off a peice for the dogs. SD threw a greasy peice of meat on the carpet and the dogs pushed it around with their noses, messing up the carpet. My dad's wife spent 45 minutes scrubbing the carpet after they left, but didn't say a word.
Then, during dinner, the largest dog saw a squirrel out out of the sliding glass doors and launched himself repeatedly at the glass, nearly cracking it. That's when my dad decided he was going to send them a text about "respecting their home." And he did. Then he faced the backlash from his wife, who was livid at him for telling her daughter that she needs to put the dogs outside if she comes over again, because her behavior was not ok. His wife was giving him the silent treatment for a few days over this.
This brought up my issues with my skids, so I explained that he did the right thing and that his wife needs to talk it out with him instead of stonewalling him. He seemed relieved to have someone validate him. My DH said she likely is too afraid of losing her daughter's affection to tell her to shape up, but that her daughter's behavior affects him, too - so he should have input into how its handled.
Anyway, I just thought it interesting that my dad, who would never understand my plight as a stepmom, is also dealing with the same EXACT issue, but he didn't see the correlation until now.
His wife's daughter has always been self-centered and entitled, but because she and her husband are wealthy, they are able to impose their "normal" on everyone else and not have any repurcussions. They live an isolated life of luxury, and my dad and his wife will often dogsit/housesit for them while they are away in Hawaii, or whatever tropical island they've jetted off to that week.