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AlmostGone834's picture

When Goofy and Little Idiot (SD22.5) were visiting for Christmas, one of the many gifts that they received was a restaurant gift certificate. When they opened it up, Goofy exclaimed, "Well this we will definitely use! We are always ordering DoorDash!" Of course, Little Idiot immediately stammered "Er... well... that's because we can't cook at home, you know, because of (Goofy's mom's bf)....he makes using the kitchen awkward... we would cook obviously when we have our own place"

I thought at the time yeah right, she has never so much as helped set a table. Meals have been prepared for her by someone else all her life. The Skunk Ape never taught her to cook and she never showed any interest in learning herself. The vegetable chopper and hand mixer she bought on Amazon will sit untouched and the dropping 30-70 bucks a pop on DoorDash will continue. She doesn't even want to be bothered with picking up her own food, let alone making it.

Well here we are a week into the new apartment and the DoorDashing continues just like I thought it would. They will never have any money for the big things they want in life if they keep spending it on expensive takeout. 
 

In other knees, when she texted to tell us she got the apartment, I said "Congratulations! I know you will love it. So much more FREEDOM" (DH just said "tell her to make sure she makes the rent each month". I thought he was going to go on about how mature she was for having her own place but thankfully he said nothing.)

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thinkthrice's picture

Of the SkunkApe.  Probably why H made the "pay your rent" comment.  The odds are high that they will be evicted before six months is out.  I find that tenants who can't manage their finances will be saying "I don't have the rent money" about 4 months in.

Again,  hope they never find out about NYS's absolutely insane militantly pro-tenant laws.  It might be worth it for two young deadbeats.

Rumplestiltskin's picture

I hope the reason you know this isn't that she is spending you or your DH's funds on the Dashing. Takeout and restaurants every night are such a waste of money. Make sure it isn't yours being wasted. 

CajunMom's picture

We had a service here called Waiter which is similar. I used it a few times and only when it was utterly necessary. I'm rural so the fees were crazy expensive. Plus I tipped the drivers above the app. Definitely not an economical service to be using consistently.

DHs youngest daughter is a Door Dash fan (per him). She will use the service multiple times a day. Needless to say, she was recently evicted. Asked DH to loan...I mean, GIVE...her $2K to get back into an apartment. He said no. Not sure where she got the money but she now is renting a room. We shall see how long she pays that rent. LOL

I give Little Idiot about 3 months, if not sooner, to be in "trouble" with rent.

thinkthrice's picture

I give Little Idiot about 3 months, if not sooner, to be in "trouble" with rent.

Exactly!

Winterglow's picture

"he makes using the kitchen awkward"

Awkward as in he expects them to clean up after themselves? How awful!

Lol

TheAccidentalSM's picture

My DH is a bit of weirdo and hates food delivery services.  I don't care especially if he is willing to cook so we never order in.  I get sticker shock when I see the price compared to just cooking something at home.  And I'm 1000% sure I earn much more than LI.  I must be getting old but I can't fathom the waste of money.  Not that I wouldn't mind having the odd chinese if DH wasn't such a silly head about delivery food.

Winterglow's picture

I'm much the same as you - the only food we have delivered comes from a particularly good Japanese restaurant and they deliver it at no extra cost. Not the kind of thing we do often, though.

TheAccidentalSM's picture

And there isn't the same tradition of take away where you live.

p.s, Your Japanese restaurant sounds amazing.  

Winterglow's picture

You're right. The only real delivery options come from pizza places and they all deliver at no extra cost. OTOH, uber eats is becoming popular for delivering McDonald's (the other burger places don't seem to interest consumers as much).

justmakingthebest's picture

The only time we used door dash was at the height of covid when everything closed down. I could have picked stuff up myself but I knew there were a lot of people out there TRYING to work, so we used them a few times. Definitely not something regular.

I actually feel a little sorry for LI and her lack of cooking. My kids have always helped me in the kitchen and I love to cook. When they were younger, to help them understand money, I would give them a budget and they would have to pick out a meal, shop for it and help me prepare it. 

Kids will always take the easy way out, so it isn't surprising that she didn't ask to learn to cook- but she should have been taught regardless. 

TheAccidentalSM's picture

I taught YSS how to make a few things when he lived with us.  When he was out on his own, he at least knew how to make bolagnaise, beef stew, lemon chicken and roast chicken with vegtables from scratch.  Not that he always cooked but he knew enough to survive and to impress girls with a beef in red wine stew.  He probably found that the most helpful part of having learnt some minimal skills. *ROFL*

justmakingthebest's picture

My brother went to culinary school with the sole purpose of being able to be a "panty dropper" LMAO

thinkthrice's picture

I'm watching all the household expenses, catching up on years of neglected deep cleaning and of course kitchen duties.   Making french bread the Ethan Chlebowski way (sorry Julia)!

So much more frugal and simpler cooking.  Would NEVER spend good money on food delivery unless we are on holiday somewhere.

TheAccidentalSM's picture

It is much healthier.

Rags's picture

If someone can read and understands basic measurements, they can cook.

Can they say R.E.C.I.P.E!  Or... C.O.O,K,B,O,O.K!

Nea

Fresh ingredients and some select other items cooked at home are far cheaper than delivery or even store bought processed foods.  It isn't rocket science.  Read the labels on processed food and it is basically a salt and CARB bomb.  Delivery is even worse as carbs drive huge spikes in endorphins which basically make those foods addictive.

Even when I was on an MDI and 12 or more finger stick blood tests per day it was obvious that restaurants are basically pushing food crack as are the manufacturers of processed foods.  Now with a CGM (Continuous Glucose Monitor) these truths are even more blariingly evident.

For a very interesting personal experiment, buy a bottle of Urine Glucose Test Stix at a pharmacy (Diastix, URS-1G, etc...) . No Rx needed. They are on the shelf. Then test the foods and drinks you get from restaurants or processed foods bought at grocery stores.  The amount of sugar in that crap is mind boggling.Even things that make no sense to put sugar in, have sugar.  For solid foods, chew a little in your mouth to mix with saliva. The enzymes in saliva immediately start drawing sugar/carbohydrates out of the saliva/food solution. Put a dab of the chewed/saliva mixed food on the reagent pad on the test strip.  After the perscribed wait time wipe of the food from the end of the strip and review against the color chart on the vial.  The amound of sugar will amaze you.  Drinks can generally be tested direcly by dipping a stick in them, waiting the instructed time, then comparing to the color chart.

 

TheAccidentalSM's picture

I think that people don't get taught the very basic stuff and get overwhelmed by where to start.  The recipes make complete sense to us because we understand the language of cooking.

And two other things come to mind:

  • complete lack of knife skills.  YSS was excruciating to watch preparing any vegtables.
  • not knowing how to clean as you go.  If you don't have this somewhat nailed, you can come to think cooking involves hours of cleaning after you've eaten.

Having said all of that, there are really basic books that are written for complete novice cooks.  How to Cook by Delia Smith is a good place to start.

thinkthrice's picture

Cleaning as you go!  Something that has been practically abandoned.   Chef cooked which was nice but it looked like a bomb went off in the kitchen every time.  That is why I like Ethan Chlebowski on YouTube.   He it's always suggesting "while that is simmering, wipe down the counters" etc.

Elea's picture

One time in a moment of "trying" SDiabla said she would help clean up after dinner. You should have seen her look of dismay when I explained that the kitchen is already clean. The only thing to do after dinner was put our plates and silverware in the dishwasher and we could all put our own in the dishwasher. No need for her "help." She could have asked how she could help rather than dictating you cook and I clean. I clean as I go SD. 
I don't want her washing dishes. She doesn't know how and her dishes are left covered in food and greasy. Could I be more gracious about her offer of "help?" Sure. I have had enough of her attitude and drama and at this point I just don't like her. 

MissK03's picture

THIS IS SO EVERYTIME! It's amazing when I'm done everything is pretty much back in order before dinner is ready. He does this with house projects too. TOOLS EVERYWHERE.

Can't stand it. 

thinkthrice's picture

Yep.  Same here.   When Chef is finished with a job he just throws everything in the van and it all piles up so he can't find anything.   He never puts anything away and so he wastes a lot if time looking for stuff trying to remember where he put it last or wastes a lot of money by giving up and buying another tool.   

He ends up having 3 to 6 of everything.   I've been finding that out as I've been going through the kitchen reorganizing and reinventoring.  He used to go to the store every day to buy groceries (at the most expensive grocery store we have here, Wegmans), taking no note of the prices.

And a lot of it was repeat because he couldn't remember what he had.  I can't tell you how many times I found 3 bottles of the same thing all half used which drives me nuts.

I go to the grocery store once a week shopping for the week and hitting all the lost leaders; planning all the meals in advanced using the items on sale for that week.   Which I think is mystifying to Chef  LOL!

 

Rags's picture

and clean,  I did not develop a decent level of knife skills until my first career.  In the restaurant industry.

When my DW and I first married I used to cringe at how she used a kitchen knife. It scared me to death and she is lucky she did not slice herself up, at least her hands.  She used to get so mad at me for stopping her and taking over the knife work during meal prep.  After we did  a couple of couples cooking events and a chef corrected her, she finally realized how lucky she was that she did not cut  herself severely.

As for cleaning, if we ever remodle a kitchen or buid another house I will put in a second dishwasher.  I hate scrubbing pots, pans, dishes, etc ... so muchso that I just put everything in the dishwasher whether it is supposed to be in there or not.  Dishwashers are the kiss of death to a knife edge... but that is what sharpeners are for. If something melts in the diswasher, I throw it away and use something else.

Yes, I am lazy when ti comes to this but I have learned that keeping a clean kitchen is a very sexy thing that is appreciated by a partner.  If trhey do not like how it is kept clean.... what they don't know won't hurt them.

Give rose

thinkthrice's picture

Some stuff can't be done in a dishwasher.  Lived through two huge remodels.

 I have an extensive array of cast iron pans that need to be hand cleaned/re seasoned.   Got rid of all my nonstick cookware (I believe it isn't healthy) and most of my cookware is stainless steel.  

Brillo pads are my and my SS cookware's best friend!

Winterglow's picture

Should you find another "surprise" do not call her. Take it to BI, drop it in his lap and tell him that he needs to get this to her ASAP, she might need it. Then try not to chuckle as you walk away.

Elea's picture

This is one of the things that "confuses" SDiablas when they visit. My pantry and frig is full of ingredients, not premade meals. DD and I know how to use them to whip up a gourmet meal in no time but SDiablas just look in the frig and say "There is nothing to eat." (Leftovers are apparently not good enough for their hinnynesses') 

Not my problem that SAH BM bum and DH never taught them to cook. They used to run home to BM's to eat hummus dip and crackers because that is all she had in the house. They complain about BM too. Not my circus. All my BK's can cook, even my son. 

Ispofacto's picture

DH and I are both gourmet cooks but we do keep pizza rolls and hotpockets on hand for him to eat on the days I'm fasting. We can afford to eat out alot but why would we when it costs 5x more than eating in? Plus our cooking tastes better, usually.

 

 

Rumplestiltskin's picture

That's the thing. You don't even have to know how to cook to feed yourself without going to restaurants and ordering takeout. If you can read, boil water, and use a microwave, you can eat. I would say i didn't know how to "cook" for a lot of my adult life but i could prepare food. When i finally did decide to get a little fancier, i learned from the internet. Her excuse is BS. 

Rags's picture

I can read, make some substitutions, and create a decent dish/meal. But I am far from a cook.

My mom iis a kitchen wizard.  So is my bride. Though they are very different in their skills and styles.  Mom is truly a master.  DW is incredibly innovative and makes our Low Card world extremely tasty.

I .. am a plodder.  But... I do okay.

AlmostGone834's picture

I don't cook things that are too fancy (Mostly because I don't eat that stuff. My dad never liked anything too fancy so I never grew up with it - although I have been dying to try Indian cuisine) but I can make some amazing home cooked traditional American fare - meatloaf, various chicken dishes, meatballs, chicken Parmesan, pork chops in home made gravy and mashed potatoes, potato and pasta salads, pizza, appetizers and dips, steaks, vegetables and casseroles, pies - lots and lots of pies -, cookies and cakes, turkey, hams, lots of German foods (my grandmother is German so a lot of her food has been passed down - German potato salad with vinegar is one of my favorites), fish fry, BBQ pulled pork and homemade cornbread, baked beans .... etc etc etc omg now I'm hungry haha. 

Winterglow's picture

For Indian food, I highly recommend any cook book by Madhur Jaffrey. Not only is she a respected reference on the subject but her recipes are straightforward and generally pretty easy to make. She is also an entertaining writer and has little stories and advice attached to most of her recipes.

thinkthrice's picture

When I met chef he wouldn't eat anything outside of American food.  He now eats everything that I have introduced to him.  We routinely have raita, butter chicken keemah, etc.  It helps that he like spices.... Actually he makes things too hot.

Ispofacto's picture

Most grocery stores have Golden Curry powder mixes, or jars of Tikka Masala sauces, for easy meals, I use chicken, pototoes, carrots, and bell peppers, but cauliflower is also a popular ingredient. You can use whichever protein you want, with whatever veggies you want. We skip the rice and use fresh pitas for dipping. It's delicious.

 

MissK03's picture

I've never used DoorDash. Skids have. They used it more (their own money) when school was still weird with Covid. They really haven't used it in awhile though. They just go out and get food if they want it.

No one taught me to cook. I just learned as I went. I would like to think I am not bad. SD has helped with things... the boys nothing.. SS18 did say two days ago he wants to learn. I told him if he's home when I am cooking I'll show him whatever he wants. 

I will add when I was with an ex bf from 21-25 we never cooked. We went out or his parents on sundays. We also worked opposite shifts for most of our relationship so that didn't help. We did live together for more then half that time. So I didn't start cooking really till I was about 25/26.

thinkthrice's picture

My mother did not teach me to cook either nor did my grandmother it was "Out of my kitchen!"

also my mother lived her life as a parent in a depressed state although she could cook fairly well.

I learned on my own and now we have the Internet!

MissK03's picture

My mom is/was a good cook. She always made us dinner etc. She just never showed me either. Unfortunately she has mental health issues and is a different person now. She fell off 15 years ago around age 44. That's a whole other story. 

My aunt (my moms sister) is a fantastic cook/baker so they must have learned that from my grandmother I'm assuming haha.  
 

And yes the thank god for the internet! Haha