Suggestions on best way to approach this conversation
To make a long story short, BM is entitled to 3 weeks of BM's summer break each year. DH has until April 1 to let BM know if she is going to have the first week and the last two weeks of summer break or the first two weeks and the last week of SD's summer break. If he doesn't then BM gets to decide which weeks she wants. Since SD has missed several flights to us BM currently owes DH 2 days. So we would like to get the 2 days owed to us on the summer break coming up.
Since BM moved, we now have to go to a further airport that is about 2 hours away (from our new house) so we have been booking SD's flights on weekends so there is no chance of us not making it to the airport on time. So the dates we would like to do would give BM 10 full days at the beginning and then 9 full days at the end. So it would give BM 19 days instead of 21 so DH would get back his 2 days.
So not only is it bringing up the issue of wanting to get back our 2 days, but also at being flexible that it wouldn't be exactly two weeks or exactly one week as the CO states.
Any advice on how to approach it to hopefully get what we want? DH partly doesn't want to draw attention to the 2 extra days or that it isn't exactly following the court order by being one whole week and two whole weeks because BM definitely does not pay attention to the CO, but if BM does realize something is up about it will be less likely to agree if it looks like DH is trying to pull a fast one on BM instead of having a conversation about it.
I think it would be best to first approach BM by asking her if it would be okay if the summer weeks weren't exactly one week or two weeks since the airport is much further from us since BM moved and makes week pick ups almost impossible. Then after that, have DH say he would love to have two extra days added to his summer visitation since he missed them with DH missing flights.