New Stepmum and dealing with 17 year twin stepdaughter's who don't want to grow up
After a disastrous first marriage, I met the man of my dreams. Of course when you reach a certain age, everyone comes with baggage of one form or another.
He has 2 x daughters 17 years. His ex wife has made it clear that she doesn't want them. So they will live with us.
They are VERY immature for their age (so act out more like 10 year olds). They are both working, though my husband found them positions. He is in the military, they work on the camp in the cookhouse. They are beyond shy, have no social skills and struggle to put together a sentence. They are polite, but will not initiate conversation.
They have a passing relationship with personal hygiene, will not perform any chores unless asked. Then will reluctantly do it. But am guessing this is most teenagers. They have appalling table manners, struggle to use cutlery, silverware and seem to prefer to eat food with their fingers. I was appalled recently, on taking them out to eat. One of them "flossed" with her long hair in a restautent. I was beyond shocked.
We will leave the UK later this year and move to Ireland. I want to start "helping" them where their mother clearly did nothing. But want to do this gently. Where do I start.
It is clear my husband dealt with the housework issues as he got home from work before his ex wife and just cleared up all their mess. So she did not deal with any of this on her return from work.
I never had children, but was brought up with good ideals. HEL PLEASE