Am I unfair?
I'm currently living with my boyfriend of 2 years. We have a 10month old son together and he has a daughter from another relationship, who's 12 years old. He shares custody with bm and she's living with us every other week.
He's working a lot, so I'm taking care of all in the household - driving the kids to school/appointments, cooking, doing laundry, cleaning etc.
After being diagnosed with post partum depression, I asked for a little more help around the house and it was decided that Sd12 should have chores around the house.. (Putting her own laundry away, water the flowers and clean sink and toilet once a week) But she doesn't do her chores and I end up doing them for her, while she gets paid for it by her dad.
We talked about multiple times but it doesn't get better. It's really no help for me, if I have to remember it for her and tell her to do it multiple times. She also leaves a mess behind and I always end up picking up her stuff.
Is it too much to ask that a 12 year can do simple chores and pick up her own stuff? And also remember to keep a proper hygiene? Most days I have to remind her to brush her teeth or take a bath..
I'm starting to resent my boyfriend for always having to do extra work when she's here.