Skids might live with us
I'm 51, been married to my husband for 12 years. I have one young adult son who lives with us. He has a hard time being independent, has adhd. I live in a small 1,100 square foot ranch house with just us 3. Well my husband's kids live about 7 hours away and always lived with their mom and half sister. My husband only visited them once a year, called them occasionally. Well their mom passed away recently and now the grandparents are fighting for custody. Kids are 13 and 15. My husband wants to get full custody but I am stressed out of the thought of them living with us. I'm done with that phase of my life, I like my privacy and don't want to raise kids. Our house is way to small for a family of 5. My son said he doesn't want them here. I suggested to my husband that they stay with their grandparents, to avoid more disruption in their life, and then they visit us in the summers, but he is adamant about full custody. Honestly just the thought of them moving in makes me wanna tell him to move out. I know I sound cruel but I can't help the way i feel. Please help with any suggestions. Selling my house isn't an option because I lived here 20 years and don't wanna move.