When skids don't have a life
Blog hog this week, sorry.
This is driving me insane. SD13 started public school 2 years ago, and has gone through 3 friend groups since then. As in, these girls just will no longer talk to her at all. She immediately met a best friend who was also new to the school and lives 2 blocks from us- they were inseparable. Something happened where this girl will no longer talk to SD at all, and in SD's story, she is the victim and did nothing wrong. Maybe so, but then she made another friend group and stayed overnight at one of their houses the entire wknd over Halloween, then ended up getting salty that they didn't want to trick or treat long (I mean, they are in 8th grade and there weren't many 8th graders trick or treating), so SD went off by herself, and now these girls won't talk to her either. Again, in SD's version, she did nothing wrong. We don't know what the truth is, but it seems weird and DH agrees.
Trust me, I know kids are a**holes, especially girls that age. My experience is that they usually get over things and you are then friends again, but that's not happening here. On the one hand I feel bad for SD because I have seen her be a good friend and good person in general and I know it really bothers her that her friends won't talk to her, but on the other hand I have seen her cause drama and there does seem to be a pattern that involves SD being the one cut out of the group, and we are only hearing her side.
So now we are left with us being SD's only source of entertainment outside of her phone. She doesn't hang out with friends, doesn't make plans- nothing. Every night she's asking if we'll play games with her. She's always asking if we have plans this wknd. Crazy has no friends or life, so when she's there, her and Crazy do everything together and SD thinks that's the way it is. I just was not like that at her age and didn't know anyone who was, and honestly it drives me crazy. There are times I want to scream "go make friends and have your own life, you are a teen"!!! We have talked to her about evaluating her own actions to see if she could be handling things better with friends and if there is a reason they may not want to be friends with her- not saying that it's her fault, but making her self-reflect. For a while there she was doing things with friends and it was amazing, and now here we are, 10 steps back, and it feels like this is how it's going to be forever and it's not ideal. Thoughts?