I AM FURIOUS
BM snuck behind SO’s back to get a meeting at school to get the youngest a 504 plan that he does not need.
She REFUSES to allow SO to have any addition school nights and she refuses to do her part as a parent. Both children have told us how much she DOESN’T do and with the youngest if you don’t monitor and supervise he won’t do homework / study at all.
This has been a constant issue for years. Back during Covid when they did online schooling he wouldn’t turn anything in because BM was leaving the kids with her elderly mom who could not / did not make him do school work. She expected a then 6 year old to be responsible enough to do school work on his own.
She has really embellished his ADHD which none of us argue maybe an issue but the bigger issue is that the kid knows if he ignores her or “cries” she won’t make him do his work. She never holds him accountable and doesn’t have requirements for him.
This isn’t just hearsay. We get one afternoon a school week and we now spend studying with him. This has only had to start this year because this is the first year he’s really had to put any effort in. Before then we’d complete any homework that came home but anyways. After just one hour of very basic studying he has started to raise his test grade by at least 20 points.
During this studying he has flat out told SO that he doesn’t want to do his work so he doesn’t at his mom. That it’s easy for him to get away with this because she’s never home. He goes to grandparents after school for a few hours and they don’t try to do it. It’s like everyone in BM’s home just expects / thinks someone else is or that it’s not needed.
But instead of stepping up and admitting that she’s not doing her job to do the bare minimum or allowing SO to do it she would rather get him labeled special needs. But I want to know what she expects the school to do different? She refuses to allow him in after school tutoring. His behavior issues are caused from lack of parenting. The school can’t do her job. They can't make him study when she doesn't.