OT - Spoiled Sister-in-Law is getting married
DH has a younger sister who has always been the princess of the family. She is in her 40s and I always thought she was opposed to marriage, but apparently, her SO of 5 years proposed and she is getting married in June (not sure why so soon...that seems quick to plan a wedding, especially since she lives in a foreign country).
All fine, not my problem, but her dream is apparently to get married at the family cabin. DH's family has had this property for nearly 50 years, so they had a really old John Deere vehicle of sorts to plow the snow, maintain the dirt road, and do general maintenance. Elderly uncle (almost 80) has nothing to do, so he tinkers on this thing. Just a couple of weeks ago, he took some piece apart that he now cannot put back together and because it's so old, mechanics who might be able to fix it can't find the parts, so they can't fix it either. This would all be fine, just don't go in the winter this year or pay someone to plow, but now that Spoiled SIL wants to get married there, MIL is insistent that we all pitch in to replace this tractor, so she can "clean up the place" for SIL's wedding. An "affordable" replacement would be $30K, split 3, maybe 4 ways. Not surprisingly, DH and I don't have any extra cash to contribute at this time. After all, he pays a significant portion of his income to CS each month and we have to pay for daycare for one, soon to be two, small children.
I will also add that MIL was ready to shell out $50K for a wedding venue in the area, but no, Spoiled SIL is insistent that the wedding be at the family cabin, so MIL must have her replacement tractor (not sure if this is the exact term for the vehicle) and sees it as a "group purchase". Not only that, but her assumption is that DH will be willing and able to go out on weekends to fix things up in preparation for a June wedding. She will also likely be shelling out money for landscaping, upgrades to the cabin, etc, all to make it appear perfect (and not the old house in the woods that it clearly is), all of which we will eventually hear about...when MIL complains against how much she spends on the family cabin and then BIL tells DH that he should pitch in financially.
I told DH that if he agreed to any of this, either paying thousands for a new tractor or going out on weekends to do maintenance and upgrades, he might as well move to the family cabin, because I will be done with him. He's already done thousands of dollars in maintenance (DH works in a trade and has completed repairs and upgrades that any other homeowner would have paid him $15K for in the last few years alone) on the place in the last year.
For further context, MIL gave DH and I a food processor for our wedding. She also complained that she had to pay to travel to our wedding, since I had it near my family. My mother planned our rehearsal dinner and I think my parents might have covered half the cost (they made the desposit, not sure if that was half the cost or less than that). My parents also paid for the hotel room that DH stayed in with SSs that MIL then stayed in after she arrived, because DH and I stayed at the wedding venue on the day of the wedding. Also, only five of DH's family members came to our wedding and some didn't even tell us they weren't coming, just didn't RSVP. One of the people who came to our wedding was Silent SIL who spent the entire time either pouting in the corner or acting as if SSs were being neglected, so this wedding is going to push all kinds of buttons for me!