no more table setting
I rarely, rarely set the table when YSD16 is at our home because DH thinks it's silly and makes things more complicated to have her do it (even when she's here for the weekend doing ZERO....she has no chores because that's an awful idea).
Anyway she's picky about Everything and that extends to tablewear. I set the table last night as I was ok doing so. She comes up, of course only after DH yells to her that dinner is ready, and promptly changes out her utensils. I say, what are you doing that? We'll, she likes the small forks (note that I gave away all the literal toddler forks she sometimes brings from BMs because she'll use those instead). I say, why don't you try using a dinner fork....the DH gets all over me and why am I asking anyway? Because it's WEIRD, it's Weird that a 16.5 year old prefers to use child size utensils.
DH can agree with me and complain to me about her lack of maturity when she's not around but once I try to actually help, which he proclaims to want to do, the backlash against me happens. oooops I stepped in too far!
So from now on I'm never never setting the table when she's here. Done with another thing.