Hi again...I have a new life now. It's peaceful and calm. I love it. I love our 3 year old. She literally makes me tear up a few times a week because I'm so grateful and happy to have her.
I work with disabled children and often spend time at the hospital being there for the children-long Job
Anyway, stepkids decided to not interact anymore. Which honestly I don't miss the drama. Im not exaggerating when I say every week one of them got suspended for fighting or there was some girl who stole something from them(I once had to demand airpods back that I bought in a not stable home but then found out later stepdaughter lied about alot)...we know one is adhd , HF autism , high anxiety and other diagnosed with ODD as a child(lots of defiance and fighting in school) and now bi polar. I wont lie I love them both dearly despite their issues. We no longer have a relationship but I often think about how they are. I've put it out of my brain and focused on my own daughter. I do not contact them in any way . My husband has tried but he's blocked.
Anyway I guess I'm here to vent. My daughter is about to he 3 and they don't know her-thwy refuse any family counseling and convinced their dad has abused them as children verbally (this is very new-we never heard this accusation until recently).
I know my only option is to focus on my own and give her an amazing life which she has but theres times that I, miss the old days.
And wonder what it could be like if stepdaughters actually agreed to be kind. It all comes down to their mom who refuses to be kind.