When dear ol’ dad is dying - A I T A?
A dear old friend of ours is in end stage kidney disease. He has dialysis treatments 3x/week which basically is the only thing keeping him alive. He's in his early 50s and has a son the same age as Little Idiot (SD22). No other family except for an older sister who lives across the country. He's been divorced for decades and never remarried.
Periodically DH and I catch up with him and see how he's doing. We've been hounding him for over a year to get on a donor list for a transplant but he claims he is unable to go because he can't drive due to vision loss from uncontrolled diabetes, (he hires a private ride company to take him to dialysis). Also he would need someone to go to him to the numerous appointments required before he's eligible to be put on the list.
Last time we spoke with him, I suggested his son could perhaps take him? He said no, because his son just got a job with the highway department and didn't have the time to take off. Frustrated, I commented that that is BS and his son should make time, since you know, his life depends on it. He didn't disagree but gave a noncommittal "yes it's very difficult" answer.
AITA? I'm sorry perhaps I overstepped my boundaries (DH thinks so) (maybe being a stepparent will do that) but to me no job is worth your parent's life and he loved his son. He was the proverbial Disney Daddy. Proud of his little clone, life revolved around this kid. He did all that he could for him and was super involved in his life. And now? Where is Junior when Daddy needs him?