Husband moving out with 18 year old stepson
My husband has just broke the news he is leaving to move to a flat with his 18 yr old stepson. He has always tried to convince me to let him live with us and our 14 yr old bio son but I would not be able to cope. The weekly visits create enough disruption and stress as it is. He has got issues, he's 20 stone and is extremely lazy and has a very large appetite. My bio son has a chronic illness so I'm extremely busy looking after him so I have no time to look after an adult stepson. We are struggling financially and have a 2 bedroom house so there is no room. He sleeps on a pull out sofa in the living room when he stays which is not ideal but we make do. I was hoping that the visits would get less and less as he got older and he would start his own life but this has not happened so far. We encouraged him to get a job or go to college but he is too lazy to try. He has no friends to speak of, his attitude is not good and he does not makes friends easy. his BM struggles to afford to feed him and struggles with his attitude. She has told him to come and live with me and my husband, she can't cope with him. She knows we have no space. My husband is so worried about the SS, he has decided to get a place with him, to help him get a job, lose weight etc. My husband spends so much time worrying, it's definitely effected our marriage which is why we're here. If I say anything or give my opinion, my husband goes into protective mode. I really sympathise with my husband having to make this choice, especially as our bio is so ill. He is a very good dad and will spend time with both boys. The kids come first at all times. I'm just wondering if anyone else has a partner who puts the SS first all the time and has even moved out just to be with the SC?