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BM isn’t even picking SD up

NotYourAverageStepMama's picture

From the airport today. The flight for SD home was booked in March 2nd and the flight information was also shared on this day. BM messaged yesterday that Mr. Petty (BM's DH) "will have to pick up SD." Beyond that no explanation was given, not that one is necessary. Just shocking that after almost two months of not seeing SD and knowing almost 5 months ahead that BM is unable to pick up SD herself. Sounds like BM just doesn't care enough or we are just biased because it's BM.

 

BM now informed us this morning she is somewhere with no wifi and she had to drive a ways to get service. So again not saying she doesn't love SD, but on the day your child is flying back to you, not only are you not picking her up, but you are also somewhere that you aren't easily reachable if anything changed or an emergency happened. On Friday she told SD she was camping, so my guess is she is still out camping now.

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Livingoutloud's picture

I'd say that BM is an idiot and I am in no way support your BM in any shape or form.
 

Having said that, not picking up a kid from airport doesn't mean much to me in regards to loving a child. I think it's ok to send some other family members, in this case stepfather to pick her up. I asked my brother to pick DD up and I picked SDs up instead of my DH and my ex sent grandma to pick DD up etc At no point we thought either of us don't care about kids. I don't think it's that big of a deal. It's just an airport. Some people just take taxis/Uber/shuttle (well not 5 year old lol), but the idea stands that airport pick up just doesn't look like a big deal to me. Of course it is just my take on it. 

NotYourAverageStepMama's picture

But it does seem like she doesn't care when on a Sunday at 6 pm her time she is too busy to pick up SD. On Friday she told SD she was camping and this morning she said she had to drive to get service to message DH. So not only is she not picking up SD she is camping somewhere without service to be readily accessible if anything were to happen or change. 

Livingoutloud's picture

Weirdo. Who's she camping with if her DH is available to drive to airport? She is bizarre. I'd just try not to let little things bother me because you have many years of her sheninagans to deal with. She might not care about her kids or just can't plan accordingly to save her life. She seems to be very discombobulated all the time. 

NotYourAverageStepMama's picture

Who or what she's doing. Just feels like SD is an after thought like we already felt like and then after almost two months of her being gone when BM originally said she "would never be okay with not talking to or seeing SD every day." Just always unorganized and a big show!