Quick complaint - updated
SO and I don't argue a lot but one of the things we have argued about is his kid not communicating what she's doing. We don't live together so on the weekends o don't have my kids, I go to his place because his kid is meant to be there every weekend. I get frustrated when she doesn't show with no communication and we've spent a weekend at his (with his mother) instead of at mine where we are alone, we haven't gone out in case she arrives, we have cooked only the meals she likes, etc. So he made the rule that she needs to tell him on Thursday night if she's not coming. Our last argument was that he doesn't enforce the rule so he promised that he was going to. Sounds great!
Thursday this week she says she's not coming Friday but will Saturday. He offered to come to mine Friday night but I said I might as well go to his since we'd have to go on Saturday anyway. I get there and kid is there! She changed her mind. Didn't tell anyone. When she arrived, he didn't message me to say there was a change of plan (like I always do for him if my kids happen yo change their schedule). He doesn't see that this is JUST AS BAD! Worse, he'd told her that I would be cooking both nights (I'm a better cook then him or his mother) and she turned up with bloody takeaways as though my meal would be unpleasant!