Ugh, Happy Thursday...or not
Well, today is the day. It's been just over a week and we get SD12 back today. As I am typing this DBF is on his way to go pick her up. I can't even fathom on how clingy she is going to be as soon as she gets to the house. I had posted a few times but removed my posts recently because I finally just lost it and told DBF what SD12 was considered.....a mini wife.
He's been asking why I have been so off and sad and there were other things that were weighing on me as well, so I was all over the place when I was expressing how I felt. I had stated how me and SD12 used to be close and now all she does is roll her eyes at me when I speak to her, doesn't listen to me when I say to pick up all of the stuff that she leaves around the house, doesn't do her portion of the chores, my DD13 ends up doing all of them and there's never any type of punishments for her actions. DBF says he does scold her when need be, and that I just don't see it apparently. I have only seen it maybe twice out of the 2 1/2 years we have been together. Guys, please don't get the wrong impression, my DBF is a good man but he does have a small case of disney dad syndrome I believe. And he babies SD12 because he doesn't see her 24/7. He shares 50/50 with baby mama.
I just have a feeling that it's going to be 10 times worse this week because she hasn't been to the house in over a week due to going remote with school. I am dreading going home because I know right when I get there, they will be there "snuggling" on the couch and when dinner comes, they will just be talking amongst themselves like no one else is at the table.
I am sorry this is all scatterbrained, I am just super stressed out and am debating on just taking my time coming home, but my DD13 just called me to say she was sick from her 3rd booster, so I want to be there for her. Anyway, so I had brought up how SD12 was a mini wife, and he asked what that was, so I told him, and he was like no... She's just a little girl, she hasn't even started puberty yet and I don't want her to mature, and how they have a close bond that's why they hold hands, kiss on the lips, cuddle, etc... Then he asked if I was accusing him of having a "Inappropriate relationship" with SD12, and I was like no, wtf, I am just saying it makes me uncomfortable and that I feel like I am the other woman. That she is his wife and I am just the other woman. He just kept saying no, they just have a good bond and he doesn't want her to mature too fast because of how the world is and blah blah blah. I was also expressing how she acts like she is the woman of the house by trying to make the decisions and he asked me to give examples and then he said, well tell her no, that you're the adult and she's the child. But basically, I don't know if I made the situation worse, or if he's actually going to wake up and see that she isn't a little girl anymore.
I don't want to go home today...ugh
Guys, am I wrong here for feeling this way? Should I have just let it go and not said anything? I feel like it's probably going to esculate now but I don't know. Should I just disengage, if so, how do I do it?