I was only asking for more flexibility
As I don't get on with SD16, I recently asked SO for more flexibility about the visits from his kids, especially the summer when they descend on us for 3 whole weeks!! It's a situation I absolutely dread every year. The visits from SD16 and SS19 put pressure on me at home when I have my own DS1 to care for and I work full time. Recently, I hired a cleaner to help me but it's still a lot of domestic work when they're here and SD ignores me or is rude to me. Last time she was here things descended into an ugly row. I would like the visits shortened to one week or a long weekend so that it eases the burden, especially as our DS is so young. After discussing this with SO, he went mad accusing me of making him choose between me & DS and SS & SD. I find this ridiculous as I didn't want that. I am so unhappy. He's digging his heals in and won't budge. He said he'd choose SS and SD over me and our DS if I made him "choose" which was very hurtful. He said they've been in his life a lot longer than we have. Any thoughts or advice for me on how to tackle this situation?