That's my new mantra when it comes to SO and his mess (quoting the character Ruth from the show "Ozark.")

Night before last, i was cooking supper at my house and SO shows up at my doorstep with SS17 and SD22. SD22 is troubled and lives about an hour away. Apparently she took a Greyhound and showed up at his doorstep, needing $4k to fix her car and wanting to move back in, and btw can she have SO's bed while she's here. Instead of a call or text "hey, SD22 is here, is there enough food?", or any info at all, he just shows up with her.

We did my family's Thanksgiving yesterday. First since my mom died. I told SO that we needed to leave at 4:45 to get there in time. When i get to his house to pick him up, none of them are ready and he has company. A relative popped over and we didn't end up leaving till 5:30.

SD22 asked if she and SS17 could ride separate in his car so they could fo somewhere after. We get to my dad's, and SD and SS aren't behind us. They got separated along the way. SS17 has been to my parents' about 50 times, but asked for the address to be texted because he doesn't usually drive. We did that. They didn't show up for another 45 minutes (the total drive time between houses is only 20.) Multiple calls from SO and they said they were "lost." With a GPS, the address, and a place SS17 has been every other Sunday for the past 3 years. Whatevs, we ate and it was nice. SO worked last night so he left shortly after dinner. He is sleeping today because of it. 

Today, SO's family is having Thanksgiving at his sister's. When he works nights, he usually goes for dinner then straight to work, like last night. He isn't going, though, because his brother and multiple other family members are still loyal to his BM. They fed her info last year that she used for her ex-parte. The case is still open and unresolved. SS11 has been with BM the past week. SS17, last I heard, would be driving SD22 back home this evening and not going.

BM sends a text an hour ago to the group chat that SO has been using since the ex-parte so there is a record, because BM behaves better on the group text w/her husband also on it, and because i have done pick-ups before. It's to coordinate drop-off for SS11. She asked if it's ok for SS11 to ride home with SS17 after the Thanksgiving dinner.

1) I didn't know SS17 was even going, 2) I didn't know SS11 or BM were going or if BM had one of SO's relatives keeping him for her like she often does, and 3) SO is sleeping until 3 or 4. I didn't answer, and if anyone calls me directly to ask, my reply will be "I don't know sh!t about f@ck." SO will have to deal when he wakes up. I am trying not to stress about his drama, especially if he isn't giving me any info on what's going on. It's constant chaos. I'm home alone with the cat cleaning and it's nice.