It's The Little Things
Today is the kids' Bonus Mom's birthday (and yes, she is a bonus in our world). I sent a text to remind my adult kids. One had completely forgotten and thanked me.
Considering how DH's kids used my birthday for years as a weapon to hurt me (knowing how much I loved a simple Happy Birthday greeting), I am mindful about these things with my ex's wife. She did nothing wrong and would never deserve such crappy treatment by our kids. They always remember her on Mother's Day and Christmas but can forget birthdays and after what's been done to me, I don't want her to think our kids are doing that PA crap to her. "It's such a simple thing to do, to honor another human being...to send kindness and love on their special day."
I'm telling DH all of this and when I look up, he's hanging his head, looking at the floor. I was ready had he said anything about his disgusting crew. " That's how you and your ex raised them. Self centered and always about them. Be proud of your accomplishments. You both did a great job raising your kids." <eye roll> He was smart and said nothing.
With the hell I've endured in StepHell from DHs side, I'm so grateful to have a good relationship with my ex and his sweet wife. And I'll do everything in my power to keep it good.
Happy Thanksgiving, StepTalkers!