DH spoke to the doctor
So the doctor from yesterday's appointment called DH to discuss SD's visit and tonsils with him. Basically, this doctor recommends SD's tonsils be removed solely on BM's claims of SD having sleep apnea. DH explained to the doctor that these symptoms BM is saying SD has had for years, DH has never witnessed and years ago he had primary custody, then he also had 50/50.
The doctor also said that BM told the doctor that she tried SD on a few allergy meds and none of them had helped. SD's tonsils aren't huge nor are they small so it is not based off the tonsils being too large. The doctor also said that unfortunately he cannot prove or disprove BM's claims about SD's issues at night. The doctor said if BM's claims are true that removal of SD's tonsils may help, but it may not also, otherwise SD is a completely healthy child.
So now both specialists are basing their recommendation off of BM's account of SD's issues, there is no additional documentation of infections or anything else related to SD's tonsils. BM either tried SD on allergy meds and never told us for when SD was staying with us, BM never tried SD on allergy meds, OR BM tried SD on the allergy meds for a few days and saw no improvement so she ruled that out as helping.
So now DH messaged BM saying that he spoke to the doctor, how he is waiting on the enviornmental allergy tests to come back, and asking BM what allergy meds she has tried for SD since she never shared that information. Cannot wait to hear the excuses for why she did not tell DH about the allergy meds and why she did not list him on SD's paperwork.