I've gone and kicked dh out
Long story short.. I found out DH had been snorting cocaine and racked up 5k debt for it.
We'd been on the rocks since August last year.. it got kind of worse through all the ss BS in the fall.. and come December... I was finito.
It did take me until May to get my ducks in a row... then I left for a glorious 12 day trip to Michigan at the end of May. The hoops I had to jump through, pandemic wise, to take this trip was nutso bananas.. but while I was down there I did a lot of thinking.
When I came back at the end of the 1st week of June, I told DH he needed to pack his crap. He stayed at our campground for a few days, thinking I was just pms'ing, and doubled down on the lovey dive crap... I had to tell him point blank that he's just making shit worse for himself and to stop.
I gave him divorce papers the 2nd week of June... which he still hasn't done anything with.. and I'm internally raging because I just want.my.peace.
He's been coming around every 2nd day or so to get this or that.. I've told him he can stay at our campground until September and that he can keep his shit here until then.. but that it's all gotta be out by the end of September.
Cue giant fight this morning, because Monday the towlink on my SUV broke and the vehicle had to be towed across town back to the dealership so they could fix the wretched thing. Oh and the rear brakes and rotors while they were at it.. 1058$ bill.
Dh hasn't paid his share of bills since June 12. Including 400$ of the 600$ car payment.. I've been paying everything on my own. Keeping track, obviously.
Dealership calls him about payment yesterday... he told them to wait until today so he could talk to me. Tells me he's not paying anything because he's not driving it, I am.
The SUV is in his name.
So.. I stopped payment coming out of my account for the car payment... causing the last payment to bounce... they call him.. he's freaking out.
He tells me I should have the money because he's been paying me 400$ a week... um no... he's been paying me 300$ a week... 400$ has only been since the beginning of May when I told him we'd need new brakes soon... 50 of that extra weekly 100 went towards savings for car repairs.. 35 went towards fees for the campground next year.. and 15 went into general savings. Prior to having the suv, it was 200$ a week.
He's going off arguing that he's been paying me 400$ a week since September.. false. He did give me 400$ for a few weeks... but that's because he had underpaid his 300$ in the previous months...and he was re-paying those weeks back.
Annnywayyyy.. he started going off about how he had no idea we were separated and now divorcing and he has no clue why and I'm a cold hearted bitch blah blah blah... yeah yeah I don't care. Then he says he wants my crossbow. Bitch please.
So he keeps yelling about the money... I told him to leave. He keeps yelling.. I told him I have all the payments recorded and what they were used for.. then he tries to tell me that I'm still getting government money for ss.. yep.. sure am.. told him in early June to apply for it so they stop sending it to me.. think he did? Of course not.. so I've been putting the difference aside.
After this morning.. I told dh that he won't be staying at the trailer until September.. that he needs to be out by the end of the month... and he needs to take his crap out of my house by end if the month too.
I've done him the courtesy of putting all his shit in black garbage bags ready to go by the front door. Garbage night is tomorrow, hopefully I won't confuse the garbage bags of his shit with the garbage bags in my trash bins...
On another topic, I loved Michigan. I'm going back in September. I'm gonna pick up a young stud and have him marry me so I can get a greencard and move there. Haha!