Hi Stalkers... I'm sorry it took a while.. but.. here it is..
He got married in his early 20’s. BM was 8 months pregnant with the twins, when she fell in love with a prisoner and left SO when prisoner was released. Their relationship was filled with violence and drama which ended when prisoner burned BM’s house to the ground.
Twins remained living with BM and spent every weekend with SO, who would pick them up and drop them back.
When relationship with prisoner ended, BM begged SO to reconcile for the sake of the twins, so he went back when they were around 2 years old. He however, could not handle the constant dramas and toxicity from BM and her family – who are a whole other story – and left for good when twins were around 4-5 years old.
He would pick up the twins and drop them home every single weekend for the next 15 years. BM was more than happy for him to take them then, so she could continue to party and live her life. SO also took the twins overseas for holidays and it would only always be just the 3 of them.
Twins were diagnosed with cancer when they were 20 years old, but thankfully, it was curable and they recovered and are fit and healthy now. They changed their names from their Mother’s surname to SO’s shortly after that, and the eldest twin, Whiny, moved in with SO while Bossy remained living with BM.
It has remained this way since then, so for the last 30 years or so, as the twins are now 35.
During this time, SO would go overseas for 6 weeks every year and spend time with a woman he met on holiday there. He was around 45 at that time and they came to a mutual understanding. He would visit her every year but could not commit as his twins needed him. She accepted this, and they kept this arrangement for the next 15 years. Twins were quite happy with this as it meant they still had him for the rest of the year.
He was still seeing this woman when I met him – and was quite open about talking with us about her. She then got married to another man – however, she asked SO if they could keep up their relationship shortly after. SO told her he’d think about it when he went over next – however, by then, he was interested in being with me, so let her know he wasn’t going back.