At the time of this incident, SD was sleeping over at her friends and had been the previous five nights. This had initially been planned as a one or two night sleepover. However, night six into the "sleepover" she called us late at night to tell us she was physically and sexually assaulted by an ex-boyfriend. She had gone to his house where she was locked in his truck, using her phone to make an 18 minute audio recording before he attacked her. She finally got out of the truck, ran off, called the police, filed a report, he was arrested and a temporary emergency restraining order was granted. She then even went to talk to the boys parents, who didn’t believe her story. Said “that wasn’t the boy she raised”. That planted the seed in my head that there are two sides to every story and what is she even doing out in the middle of the night!? She wanted to continue to stay at her friends even though we thought it best to come home. We agreed she would come home the next day.
The next day her dad told her to be home by 3:30 or call. Hours went by with no word and when he called her she said she might be home by 8:00pm, but wasn’t sure as she was currently getting ice cream with friends. At this point we were very frustrated that she was not coming home. My perspective was that, had she been at her friends house and not out somewhere she did not have permission to be that this would not have happened, but I wasn’t blaming her. I threatened to take away her phone if she was not home by a certain time and told her she wasn’t going to be having sleepovers again for a long time. She then refused to come home at all. We had a heated conversation on the phone that only made things worse. During this conversation she disclosed a previous rape but said didn’t want to talk about it. She has since moved in with her maternal grandparents because she now refuses to have anything to do with me.