Adding first bio child to our merged family
Need advice on how to tell SS8 that I'm pregnant!
I just found out I was pregnant a month ago (about 12 weeks along). I'm incredibly excited as I have a lot of medical/fertility issues and didn't know if it was even possible. However, the timing is terrible. We are currently going through a battle for primary custody of SS8 (bio mom is moving over 2 hours away and is trying to take SS8 with her) and there is a lot of tension between the households. Bio mom is using every form of manipulation already to turn SS8 against us (it hasn't worked but it hasn't stopped her trying). I'm worried about how to tell SS8 about the baby without bio mom getting involved and twisting it into something negative.
We will do all the standard things like make sure we make special time for him, especially with his father and let him know it won't be changing anything (baby will have its own room so he won't lose space or have to share). But I don't know how to pre-empt/prepare for her manipulations.