Working on staying disengaged is not always easy.
I admit it, I am working on not asking any questions about them, unless it directly involves me or our home. Because asking =interest and involment and they (grown skids) have made it clear they aren't really interested in any sort of relationship with me unless it benefits them. Meaning "what can you do for me?" of course this is not asked but is a given because of my and DH's giving natures. I naturally just THINK of others as in "oh you're going to be seeing so and so? Here let me send some fresh baked bread" that then never gets acknowledged and I wonder why I bothered.
My mantra is "this is more important to me than them, and has no meaning for them" I decide whether to proceed. It also bums me out because it is not who I am as a person but some people just take and take.
I'm in a quandary right now. I make beautiful blankets, s-granddaughter 1 and 2 came over the other day and saw the one I was working on. Sgranddaughter 2 is a sweet heart. Very genuine and caring. 1- is like her dad, very self centered and narcissistic. Sgranddaughter 2 asked me to make her a blanket. I agreed and then regretted it. So naturally 1 asked for one as well. Uhmmmm. There's also a 3rd gdaughter that I now suspect I will feel obligated to make one for, oh and on and on. This is not my plan nor my enjoyment. I enjoy making them for people that appreciate not just the workmanship but also the sentimentality that goes into them. I have not seen this sentimentality in most of them, just greed and fomo. (Fear of missing out) sigh. What to do. I guess I can always pull one of their tricks out of the bag and just play along knowing I've already got "other plans" and am booked up for the foreseeable future. LOL!