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Wicked stepmo.'s picture

So I get home from work. SO isn't there but started packing and had to run out for a bit.

YSD has not packed a thing and is in the kitchen making a small buffet. I walk in and she immediately starts with her disrespectful mouth. I tell her to get her things because she is leaving today. I do not have to tolerate her behavior and I will not tolerate her behavior in my house. I told her she is starting to act just like her sister and it's a shame she doesn't learn from her sisters mistakes.

She proceeded to face time her sister who was being all gangster over the phone and wanted YSD to hand me the phone so she could give me a peice of her mind. I proceeded to ignore both of them and YSD knows well enough to not dare come near me. 

I go in my room and text SO to come get his f'ing daughter now and get her out of my house immediately. In the meantime YSD proceeds to take her rations she has arranged tand barricades herself in her room.

This girl really does not believe she is leaving and is prepared to stay as if I am going to just give up and tolerate her shit.

SO arrives and takes the door off her room and tells her to get out they are leaving. She absolutely refuses and is ready to fight him. She is not a small girl. I tell her I don't know what she thinks she is doing but this is my house and she cannot just stay here because she wants to.

So I call the police to remove her. SO is mortified and embarrassed but being completely supportive. The police come and get to meet this lovely child and tell SO Thier is something deeply disturbed about her and that normal kids don't act this way. 

They make sure YSD leaves she is refusing to leave with her father because she knows he is beyond furious. So her older half sister comes to get her and will bring her to the grandparents. 

Simultaneously as this is occurring OSD is at grandma's and has been nothing but vile and abusive towards her grandparents. OSD is making demands of grandma and she tells her flat out no. OSD calls the cops on grandma! 

The cops come, grandma calls the mother and she absolutely refuses to get OSD. But this is why I just love grandma!! Grandma proceeded to tell the Officers of the elder abuse she and her husband have endured and that OSD can not be in her home and since SO will be living there she will have to go an stay with her mother.

The cops call BM and tell her she cannot refuse to take her child and they forced her come get her. I advised Grandma to get an OOP this way BM can't just drop her off at her doorstep whenever she wants to and since SO is living there OSD will be BMs problem. 

YSD is completely screwed up in the head after everything she is texting SO apologizing as if that will make up for everything she has done. I give SO props he didn't even answer her back. 

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Stepmumwendy's picture

What gives with these kids. Mine acted like it is their home and not mine also. Ugh. Sorry you had so much drama today 

ndc's picture

OMG. It is hard to believe how out of control these kids are. Small wonder no one wants them. Good for you for not accepting any more of their crap. And kudos to grandma for booting OSD. I hope she sticks to her guns. Who technically has legal/physical custody of these ferals?

TheAccidentalSM's picture

More blood boiling here on your behalf.  The gall of those two kids.

Please tell me you have a massage or some other type of calming session booked for yourself after you get them out of the house.  It's close to medically required self help.

tog redux's picture

Can I ask - why is Grandma allowing SO to live there? Why can't he live on his own? At some point, the police will tell him HE has to come get his kids when BM dumps them somewhere and they won't care if Grandma has an OOP - they will expect him to get a hotel.  Can he not afford to live on his own?  Seems like he needs to put on his big boy pants and start living on his own and caring for his kids.

Good call on your part, though - all of it.  This is how you use the police to deal with an out of control kid, but many parents are too embarrassed to do it.

Wicked stepmo.'s picture

OSD doesn't want to live with SO she will keep running away as she has been. She wants to live with BM. BM deserves to reap what she sows and to be honest if OSD gets dumped by BM she needs to go to residential placement she is completely out of control. 

tog redux's picture

I get that, but why can't he live on his own? It's not BM's responsibility to care for the kids on her own, and you know she won't. 

Wicked stepmo.'s picture

Because he knows he can't leave them unsupervised at all and his mother is his only resource for supervision when he is at work. A daycare would not take these kids.

Rumplestiltskin's picture

Idk if i've said this before but your SDs remind me of the "Cash Me Ousside" girl from Dr. Phil. You can not live with this mess. 

MissK03's picture

I was picturing the same.. of course she is. Getting promoted all over the internet that the minute into her 18th birthday made an only fans and made over a million dollars in like 6 hours. 

hereiam's picture

Just wow.

I am glad that you are getting them out of your home. I have gone back and read some of your posts over the last year, I can't believe you have put up with them (SO included) for this long.

lieutenant_dad's picture

Your turn to get an OOP. Perhaps when your SO doesn't have anywhere else to turn he'll figure out his own problems.

Also, you need to take care of yourself. This is insane, and you don't need to deal with it. I know SO is moving out, but you need to be asking if this is something you want to deal with long-term. These girls will likely be problematic for years.

Rumplestiltskin's picture

Yeah, nothing will change when they turn 18, 21, 35, etc., unless they are forced to clean up their acts. 

halo1998's picture

pack their sh*t....put it outside and change the locks.  Period....where your SO has to live is not your problem.  SO is big boy..time to put on the big boy pants and nut up.  Sorry to be harsh...but the minute I have to call the cops to have a kid removed from MY house..is the exact minute both their shit is packed and out.  My house..my sanctuary....you f' with that..your out.    Your SO is still hoping you will cave and feel sorry for him.  Nope..he had hand in creating those monsters...and now he can live with them.

 

Wicked stepmo.'s picture

Trust me I have seen this is a level of dysfunction I cannot live with, not now, not ever. 

I have absolutely no intentions of allowing either one of those two kids back inside my house. If SO and I stay together, I do not know the answer to that question.

So much has happened I have to process through it all one step at a time. But first I.am focused on finding my peace again.