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Is your SO different when their kids are visiting?

FLnokids2021's picture

He's like a different person half the time his kids are here.  Grumpy, irritable.  He says he also goes in sad mode.  Nitpicks and micromanaging.  Sometimes the main reason I don't like his kids here are because of how he is when they're here.  


yougotthis's picture

No. I'm sure I am different though when his kids are here. And I'm sure it bugs my DH. 


missgingersnap2021's picture

Omg!!  Your post just summed up my entire life! Which was the reason for my blog earlier today. I think I get so stressed about the little things( like my SD coming early and/or staying later) because I just hate so much the dynamics between DH and I when she is here.

He is SOOO DIFFERENT!! Cold, moody, snippy anxious - I could go on and on. And of course I end up being different too so we become like oil and vinegar. 

Jcksjj's picture

Yes. Or at least he used to be. He'd start to turn into MIL *shudder* 

He seems much happier with her here less honestly. She's stressful for everyone I think.

strugglingSM's picture

Yes! My DH is more irritable, more spacey, more snappy, and less reliable when skids are around. It drives me nuts.

Unsureofthis's picture

Yes mine is a completely different man when sd21 visits. Arrogant, loud, bouncing around, showing off, talks himself up. Different body language too; makes himself appear bigger, sits with his legs wide apart. It's so weird and annoying, both me and two DDs find it very strange and annoying.

Livingoutloud's picture

No. Mine is the same regardless who is around.

I have an ex who was very different when exSDs were around. Well that's one of the reasons I never married him and eventually left, that's why he is an ex. I did stay too long but eventually I had enough. If my DH was grumpy, cold and moody towards me when skids come around, he'd be an ex too. That's a no no. Don't tolerate crap like this