Newly married with entitled step daughters
Newly married with two step daughters age 17 and 19. I have a functional special needs biological daughter age 14. I have full custody of my daughter. We all got along until my husband and I got married and bought a new house. I sold my condo to buy this new house. When it came time to move in the older daughter came unhinged when she could not bring her pot smoking boyfriend to live with us. She stole my daughter's emotional support dog and said she was going to kill herself if we took it back. Then the 17 yr old SD decided she's going to take this dog too. My husband bought them a $2000 puppy and they still weren't happy. They said the new house is theirs and they want to decorate it their way and organize it how they like. My 14 year old was subjected to them being jealous of her and picking on her regarding some of her disabilities and due to the stress has pulled her hair out to the point we had to shave all of it. The step daughter's even manipulated my husband into some of the bullying. I confronted them all and put a stop to it. Now I'm the evil step mom. Don't care. It's wrong. Anyways we have been in this new house for 7 months and they refuse to come over. Fine by me but my husband is miserable without his children. They refused to talk to him say he's abusive to them for not doing what they want. He took their car away and they were still mean to him. I suggested he try to take them out of holiday and they were mean to him the whole time ignoring him and making demands for money. When they act like this to him my husband in turn is mean to my daughter and I. His ex wife calls him asking for money for the 17 year old almost 18. He gave both girls credit cards and they use them. Recently he turned them off for over use but assured the daughters if not to punish them so not to get mad at him....he really tries hard to please and take care of everyone but they are never happy unless they hold the reins. He won't go on any vacations with us because his 17 year old will kill herself if she is not invited. So.....after months of trying to mend our new marriage, calm my daughter down from the trauma and almost getting back to norm he drops a Grenade on me and asks can his daughter move in with her boyfriend!?!? And when she does she wants to retrain my dog because she doesn't want her new dog to get his bad habits and oh they feed their dog special food so now my dog will probably change his food too... oh and one other thing her boyfriend has a prescription for medical marijuana. So my husband looks at me with absolute joy that his girls want him again....my daughter's hair is just starting to grow back literally 1/2 inch. All of this and my red flag is my husband's behavior starts to change to negative toward me, my daughter and my dog. Them against us right?