BM is now the wicked stepmother
SS11 arrived today and hadn't been here 10 minutes before asking to speak with me privately.
Turns out while he was here last, BM took away his oldest StepSister's phone for "doing something bad" so StepSister took off to her Mom's and refuses to come back.
SS11 confided to me that StepSister said something bad about each member of the family. He said BM told him that StepSister said he hogs the electronics. I didn't ask what she said about the other members but SS11 said BM wouldn't tell him because it was so bad.
I asked him why he thought BM told him what StepSister said about him. He said he figured it was because he asked. He seemed a bit defensive so I just said "I was just wondering if you'd thought about what your Mom's goal was for telling you". He said he thought maybe just to let him know.
He also said BM told him he wasn't allowed to talk to younger stepsister about it, since she was probably confused and feeling angry.
I asked SS11 how he's feeling about it and he's mad at StepSister. He said that he "got her back" by said she has electronics in her room so if she thinks he's hogging them she can go elsewhere.
He also said this whole thing reminded him of when StepSisters mom got the StepDad fired. I said I didn't know the details about that and he said that the StepDads BM "lied to his job". I feel like it would have to be one hell of a lie to get fired from a job you worked at for 15 years.
I told him there are 3 sides to every story, and that neither the StepDad or his BM are telling the whole truth. I said it was the same with StepSister and BM. He agreed he didn't know all the information. I asked him to just be supportive and not to choose sides. He said he tries but he's not allowed to talk to his sister's about it so he only knows one of the three sides.
I'm not entirely sure what SS11 was hoping to gain by talking with me, I think mostly he just needs a neutral party to hear him out. He would never go to his Dad with this kind of stuff.