How do I get SKs to move out when he is old enough?
I have been fairly quiet the last few months - just trying to stay posistive. SKs are still the same but I tend to ignore them most of the time. Being in the same room as them makes my skin crawl. Sometimes its not their fault but I think alot of the damage has been done by their annoying habits and constant dramas.
Does anyone else feel terrible for just not really like the SKs all that much?
Anyway, these SKs live with us 24/7 - I count down the days for them to grown up and move out.
They are 10 and 14 - pretty immature in general. Have no common sense, initutive or drive. I know that they will be around forever if I don't put in some ground work now.
How do I get these kids to be more independant and hungry for adventure instead of lazy and idle?
I feel like if I try do some subtle things to make them think about leaving at say 18 I should start now?
At the moment we are on a path to them just being round the house with no job until they are 30. The oldest one especially is going to likely to fail school and he has no drive at all to try and do well. He doesnt even talk like a normal 14 year old who is thinking about whats next after high school. He thinks life is handed to him. The youngest I think will do OK at school and is probably a bit more likely to follow his peers onto college.
Any tips from people who have done this strategy before and have got them out their house in good time? I don't think I could bare to live with them any longer than I need to. Perhaps not making it so comfortable for them? How do I get them to look outwards at the world? I think they might need a personality transplant.