The struggle is real and out of control
My 13 year old step-daughter hates me. She hates her Dad because he sides with me. She hates my son and my daughter. But she does not hate her older sister (my oldest step-daughter). Our household is in constant termoil and she just keeps getting worse. We can't look at her, we can't talk to her. We can't include her and we can't exclude her. She does what she wants and she genuinely acts like she enjoys all the negativity. The week of Christmas, she sucked the joy out of me. I have been with my husband since his two daughters were 2 years old and a newborn. They haven't really experienced life any other way. Their Mother chose to move out of state years ago and isn't the greatest human being. Therapy, counseling and the medication isn't helping. She's great for a week or two and then bam, she is a kid right out of the old tv show Beyond Scared Straight. I've been on-edge and stressed for so long I don't know what it's like to just take it easy for a day. I'm missing work because she can't be left alone or alone with her siblings... It's covid era so school is only every other day. I'm scared she will hurt herself, I'm scared she's going to hurt one of us and I'm scared the other three kids are going to start hating their childhoods because of my 13 year old step daughter. Everything has a lock on it. I don't know what to do... My husband doesn't know what to do... I feel like I do no right for my husband, nothing right by my step-daughter since she hates me and now I feel like I'm failing my 16 year old step-daughter and my son and daughter. There was 4 weeks of miserable petty nit-picking, three weeks of things going pretty well, then a week of irritability and this stretch of hatred has been going on for the last ten days and she is out of control. Her actions and behaviors... I am all out of steam.